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Step 1
Think about sex with your partner. Be clear on your position in the relationship before doing anything.
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Step 2
Talk about sex with your partner. Find out what your partner thinks and honestly state your position. If this seems uncomfortable, then sex will too.
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Step 3
Think about how much you really know your partner. Sex is all about trust and intimacy; make sure you have that with each other beforehand.
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Step 4
Ask yourself if you are passionate about your partner. If sex is just something to do, you might be making a mistake.
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Step 5
See each other more than once a week.
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Step 6
Date for a while. Be comfortable with one another.
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Step 7
Ask yourself if you enjoy making contact with the other person. Little things like hugs and kisses are good indicators that sex is an appropriate step.
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Step 8
Be prepared for safe sex. Take the necessary precautions so that sex can be enjoyable, both during and afterwards.
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Step 9
Have fun. Try not to anticipate the best sex of your life. Relax and go through the steps in determining if the right time to have sex is now.
Comments
texan6533 said
on 5/30/2009 Even as Christian man, I understand your point of view Dontcare. I can see how many people view Christianity as a very constraining belief and that you should be able to make decisions on your own. However, I will say that is exactly the beauty of believing in God. God gives us the choice to believe in him or not and live the way we want. If you think about it, its the most liberating feeling that life can offer. I know that waiting until marriage to have sex is really frowned upon these days and that some people even consider it outdated, but honestly sex was created so that a man and his wife could experience the highest sense of love there is. I know its a little hard to understand at times, but I promise its a lot for fulfilling than bouncing from girl to girl (trust me I've lived that life and I wasn't half as happy as I am now)
dontcare said
on 3/4/2009 Also, I feel bad for people that never experience the wonders of life outside a damn book because they are too stressed thinking about what some supernatural being in the sky thinks about them. Man how can you live your life that way? Be freeee! Just do what feels right for you is all. Frankly I've only ever been with one guy, because its what feels right to me. But I certainly don't look down on people who like one night stands for some fun and pleasure and not to mention stressrelief. I'm not talking about sex addiction mind you. Meh whatever to each their own.
dontcare said
on 3/4/2009 Please. There's no such thing as god and if there was I dont need it/she/he telling me what makes me happy orc ontrolling my life, I know what makes me happy, and I will do as I please as long as it doesn't harm others. Humans evloved as a social, sexual creature, people need to learn that, and not think that ooo sex is bad because some mythical being said so, and therein be closed minded about it. I was traumatized by that type of crap and it to me awhile to learn what sex is really about, the bonding and such, and pleasure as well. (Research Bonobos, a very close relative of ours, that use sex in a simular fashion, for social reasons)BTW the bible endorsed cocubines, polygamy and slaves.
mellybrace said
on 12/23/2008 I feel very bad for beachbabe. She's like a fish living in a mudhole never having experienced anything else saying that it can't understand all this talk about swimming in the wide open seas and being able to enjoy what it was meant for. God did not make us females (and males for that matter) to find sexual fulfillment in being prostitutes or fornicators- especially not free ones. Remember, God made us and knows what makes us happy. He says marriage is the right time for sex to give us true fulfillment whether we completely understand it at 15 or ever. And as far as how do we know who is the right one, God lists the fruits of the spirit in Galatians 5:19-24. Don't even date someone who doesn't exhibit these characteristics, let alone give your purity away to them. Beachbabe, don't you think your future husband won't prefer leftovers?
LawnRockFacet said
on 10/14/2008 I think it's okay to think about a lot of different kinds of non-sexual connections between people as relationships--and that there is a gift in that for those of us who go on to have sex with someone special, or in another lifestyle, with someone you share mututal respect with.