How to Safely Find Love On the Internet

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Have you been trying to find someone to love on the internet? Looking for someone to spend time with.

After meeting up, hooking up and hanging out you're ready to jump in with both feet, looking for love from the safety of your computer screen, mouse and keyboard.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Common Sense (or a trusted friend)

Step 1

FIRST - WITH THE HEAVY STUFF - THINGS TO BE AWARE OF, RUN QUICKLY
* DO be aware if the person can only talk during certain times of the day
* DO take note if they always, "need to go"
* DO take note if the person is vague in conversation
They could be married, or in a relationship already.

* DO get as many details on the other person before meeting in real life
* DO let a trusted friend/family member know before you go on your first date
* DO some investigation. Make sure they live at the address they stated
* DO be warned - if a person is in love with you after the first meeting and ready to drop everything to be with you.

They could be dangerous, or a stalker.

* DO NOT give out information of a personal sort.
* DO be aware of a person who never has any money in the very beginning.
* DO be advised if the person does not have a job or means of transportation, or place to live of their own.
They could be looking for a free ride!!!
Step 2

NOW - - - WHEN YOU SIGN UP ON A DATING SITE HERE ARE SOME GOOD TIPS FOR YOUR PROFILE
* DON'T SHARE YOUR REAL NAME/PHONE NUMBERS or have this information in your profile
* DO take advantage of the features that allow you to e-mail without using your actual e-mail address
* DO set up a free e-mail account for your online dating
* DON'T choose a sexy sounding Login - Love69 can set you up for a world of hurt and attract the wrong type of person.
* DO be truthful on your profile and use a current picture.
* DON'T SHARE your life history
* BE CREATIVE, use good grammar and spelling and proper punctuation.
Step 3

IF THINGS PROGRESS, YOU'LL E-MAIL AND TALK ON THE PHONE
BE AWARE OF THESE THINGS
* Phone calls that last until all hours of the night - don't reveal too much about yourself, leave some mystery.
* If the conversation leads to dirty talking and you are not comfortable with that, say so. That person needs to respect you and being pressured to do something you don't want to do - is not respect.
* Don't be self-absorbed. You're looking to attract a mate, not a therapist.
Step 4

THE FIRST DATE
* Go with your gut - if you get a bad vibe about this person, don't meet them in person.
* Look your best.
* Do not let that person pick you up at your home.
* Do choose a casual location for your first date, coffee and a movie, dinner at a downtown setting, a baseball game with friends.
* Do not get drunk. It makes a poor first impression and your safety could be compromised.
* Don't leave your personal belongings unattended.
* Give a copy of their online profile, e-mail and phone numbers to a friend.
* Do keep your cell phone handy.

Ladies and gentleman, not everyone posting online on these sites is honest. You could get taken advantage of.
Step 5

Some people are not honest, they use sites like this to take advantage of people.

On the other hand people do fall in love and stay in love.

Use good common sense when you meet someone online.

Protect yourself.