For people with commitment issues or relationship problems, accepting a person as your boyfriend may send chills down your spine. You may casually date the same person for years, but balk any time someone applies the term "boyfriend" to your relationship. The only way to improve your relationship is for you to admit you are in a relationship.
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Difficulty:
Moderate
Instructions
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Consider if your relationship will change if you accept the term. For many couples, the terms "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" don't define their actions. With or without the term, they will continue to treat each other they way they have.
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Evaluate your motives. Your fear may stem from the fact you aren't ready for a monogamous relationship. Or it could be you fear a loss of independence. Once you understand the root of the issue, you can begin to search for ways to overcome your fear.
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Take things slowly and give yourself time to adjust to the concept. Often warming up to the idea makes it less threatening.
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Look for a healthy relationship. If you're in a bad relationship, you should fear any long term commitment. Have your friends and family help you identify loving characteristics in your prospective boyfriend.
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Talk with a professional about your fear of the term "boyfriend." Relationship problems may be the result of the childhood issues or traumatic experiences. Professionals help you work through the physiological and psychological factors and overcome your fear.
Tips & Warnings
Before you dismiss fear of the term "boyfriend" as a silly notion, keep in mind that professional health experts recognize commitment phobia as a real fear.
