How to Function in a Multigenerational Household

Multi-generational households are on the rise due to rising immigration, higher housing costs and health problems. It's still possible to function in a multi-generational household. All you need is a little planning.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Discuss living arrangements ahead of time. Clearly state your expectations, responsibilities and length of stay. Don't make assumptions.

2. Take the time to familiarize yourself with the other generation's preferences, such as in music. If you're young, learning about the kind of music your grandparents grew up with is a way to show respect and interest in them.

3. Show consideration. Older family members normally need more sleep. This means that you may need to turn down the music or television. If you're older, you may need to be more tolerant and remember when you were young.

4. Share your wealth of information and experience with the younger generations but allow them room for growth. Everyone learns through experience. If no one is being hurt, allow younger generation family members to learn from their own mistakes.

5. Address any issues promptly to maintain peace and family unity. Failure to do this will strain the relationship and eventually cause an explosion of repressed feelings.

6. Consider the possibility of renovating your home to make adequate accommodations. Some families have turned dens into bedrooms and closets into bathrooms. Implementing the persons' favorite color or decorations in their living quarters will make them feel at home and give them a sense of individuality.

Tips & Warnings

• Building contractors can design house plans that include a studio apartment, either in the home or on the property.
• Some mortgage companies are finding ways to combine the grandparent's income with the qualifying household income.