How to Include Spanking in Child Discipline

Spanking is one of the most controversial forms of disciplining a child. It is hard to believe that only a generation ago no parent thought twice about swatting their kid on the butt when they were bad. Spanking has its benefits and drawbacks, so make sure you know what you are doing before you put your child over your knee.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Talk to other parents for ideas on how they discipline their children. Some parents will quickly volunteer that they spank their children. Others think it is the ultimate taboo. The most successful parents are the ones that establish routines and ground rules for their children and stick to them.

2. Make sure you are spanking him for the right reason. He will remember the spanking, so do it to reinforce something important such as running into the road or touching the stove. Don't spank your kid for spilling their bottle or pulling the cat's tail.

3. Determine if you should incorporate spanking as punishment for your child. Spanking isn't appropriate for every child and many believe you shouldn't spank children over eight years old. Instead, let them accept the natural consequences of their actions as much as possible.

4. Process what happened after the spanking. After everyone has settled down, sit down and talk with your child about why you spanked them. Even if it is a small child, use small, direct words and phrases to reinforce your message. Give him a hug to show him that you still love him.

5. Evaluate how often spanking is used. If you are giving out spankings every day, then it might be time to consider an alternative form of discipline.

Resources

• Good debate on spanking your child
• Guidelines on disciplining your child

[pdeverit]

on 11/7/2009 visit www.nospank.net

[JudyFord]

on 8/17/2009 As the parenting expert on eHow I would like to make it clear that I am against spanking in all situations. My workshops are entitled: Parenting with Love and Laughter and that is my approach. ❤

[pdeverit]

on 8/8/2009 Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research. Just a handful of those raising awareness of why child buttock-battering isn't a good idea: American Academy of Pediatrics, American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, Center For Effective Discipline, PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals, Churches' Network For Non-Violence, Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps, Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children, United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child. Child buttock-battering is illegal in 26 countries. In fact, the US was the only UN mem...

[pdeverit]

on 8/8/2009 Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:
Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit. Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit. I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do. There are several reasons why child buttock-battering isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals: Plain Talk About Spanking by Jordan Riak, The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children by Tom Johnson, NO VITAL ORGANS THERE So They Say by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer M.D.

[yoanna-mother]

on 2/13/2009 I`m a mother of teenage boy and agree with the opinion that spanking is one of the most effective ways of disciplining a child. But with the growing children become more resistant to the pain, especially the boys. That is not to say, that we must to increase the roughness of spanking to achieve desired effect. The purpose of punishment is not to wound on the child, but for habituation and for sanction for intentional and conscious bad behaviour. I convinced however, that with interpolating some embarrassment to the punishment we can achieve rather sufficient result. When I say embarrassment I mind just inconvenience and discomfort, not humiliation and outrage. Along this lines I use to bringing under control my 12 years old son with bare bottom spanking and bare bottom corner time. I completely agree with you, that the spanking is a private matter between the parent and child.