How to Start Up a Healthy Relationship

Some folks just have trouble starting up a healthy relationship. Here are some points to look for when you're looking for a relationship. If you're looking for love, make sure you follow these tips to start up a healthy relationship.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• Common sense (if you lack this, go to a trusted friend who possesses this ability)

1. MEETING THAT SPECIAL PERSON.
   Most likely a person in their early 20's will be looking for someone in different places than someone in their late 40's.
   
   If you are looking for that special person to start a relationship with you will have to find them.
   
   If you have good friends who are looking to set you up with someone, consider their advice. They know you well enough, and see things in you that are special and that perhaps their set up would appreciate as well.
   
   People can meet on the internet. Be safe in doing this.
   
   You can meet people in school, coffee bars, real bars, or just shopping for groceries.
2. YOUR VIBE.
   When you meet that person you want to impress - put your best foot forward.
   
   You don't have to look like a supermodel, or bodybuilder to catch a person. But you need confidence.
   
   You are so special, and uniquely made - so if you focus on your negative attributes, that other person may as well. If you think you don't deserve the best - you won't get the best.
   
   Confidence is your best vibe. Avoid the desperate/clingy vibe.
   
   Look at yourself every day and pick out the best things that you can think of. It may sound hokey, but it's the truth.
   
   If you don't feel like you're anything special, that other person won't either.
   
   Your vibe is your confidence, and to attract a healthy partner, you will need that.
3. YOUR EXPECTATIONS.
   
   Are you marriage minded? Or just looking for a friendly date to see movies with and eat dinner together? Are you looking for romance?
   
   You need to be honest with yourself in what you are looking for.
   
   One woman looking for marriage and one man looking for romance do not a "couple" make. So, consider - what are you looking for.
4. WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO OFFER?
   
   If you're going to go to a healthy, balanced relationship think about what you have to offer.
   
   DO you have friends of your own? Your own means of transportation? Your own home? a job? a living pet?
   
   You are going to be at your prime relationship time, whenever you are doing your best personally. When you're not focusing on finding love, usually you will find it.
   
   Be careful in this step, the person may seem to have stability, but it may be an inability to change.
   
   If you evaluate yourself in a true and honest manner, where are you lacking? Are you looking for a relationship - or a caretaker? or a person to fill a void?
   
   This part of starting a healthy relationship starts with YOU!!!
5. HOW HAPPY ARE YOU?
   
   If you date this person a few times and find that you are not compatible, end that relationship.
   
   If you date this person and find you have more fun with your friends, don't try to maintain this relationship.
   
   If you are having fun, happy, enjoy their company - consider getting to know each other a bit more.
   
   This is a reason I would not advocate having sex before you're comfortable with that person. It is MUCH HARDER to break up once your relationship has taken a physical step.
6. HOW DO THEY TREAT OTHER PEOPLE?
   
   If you are dating a person and they are consistently late to your dates, that probably won't change.
   
   If you are dating a person and they treat a waiter/waitress poorly, they may not be worth keeping around.
   
   If you are dating a person who talks about their friends and family in a negative manner - they will probably talk about you that way to their friends.
   
   Kindness and sincerity cannot be faked for long. If their true colors come out and they are not who they portrayed themselves, get out.
7. DON'T BE A STALKER.
   
   If you date a person and it seems like you're off to a good start and things don't progress you may gain a valuable friend. [Think Jerry & Elaine on Seinfeld]
   
   In turn that friend could introduce you to the love of your life.
   
   You will not attract anyone by acting like a stalker, calling all of the time, putting off a desperate or clingy vibe.
8. CONSIDER THESE THINGS TO START A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP - - -
   * A person who is not worth dating is not worth marrying. If you look at this person and find serious faults before marriage, it won't get better. ["If my best isn't good enough, how can it be good enough for two?" - George Michael]
   * "She's wanting me less and I'm wanting her more." - Seven Mary Three
   * "I've got confidence, in me." Maria, The Sound of Music
   
   When you meet that special person, confidence is key. Be honest with yourself and what you are looking for and what you can give to a relationship. When you are with that person - how happy are you? how do they treat people? If this relationship doesn't work out can you treat that person as a friend.

Tips & Warnings

• When you're meeting someone on the internet, be careful.