Things You'll Need:
- A keen sense of awareness.
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Step 1
Be aware of people who are too familiar with you upon meeting. If a person seems overly charming and charismatic, it is because they have had lots of practice turning on the charm. It's a little intoxicating when a person seems ecstatic to meet you, it's a shot to the ego. They know that. Beware.
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Step 2
If a person confides in you extremely personal information, and it's it's only you're second date, that's a big red flag. If something seems a little strange to you or makes you feel uncomfortable, listen to your instincts. It is easy to be flattered by a persons trust in you, but really, there isn't any way that real trust could be established that early on. You can rest assured this person has done this many times, and each time tries to condense the process.
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Step 3
If a person calls you or contacts you in crisis mode early on, know this. This will be a common occurance as long as you are involved with this person. Normal people try to downplay whatever problems or baggage they have, not play it up. This is an attention grabbing tactic, and used by these people when they feel you are getting wise. It's classic.
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Step 4
A huge clue to knowing you're with a loser is the saying of "I love you" within the first 30 days of knowing this person. It's easy to get swept up in it, and they know it. If they say this to you and you buy it, that's the icing on the cake for them. If you say it back, that's the ammunition they need to use against you at a later date, and they will use it.
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Step 5
The biggest clue you'll see is the suggestion of moving in together after only knowing each other a short time. DON'T do it. If this person is for real, they will stick around until you're both ready. If you turn a loser down, they'll find someone else who'll do what they want. These people work harder at not taking care of themselves than they would if they just lived a real life.
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Step 6
If you find yourself buying things for or giving money to one of these people, stop it. A person like this is a master at making others feel sorry for them. Any money given to them is money thrown away. They do not appreciate it, they expect it. Don't do it.
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Step 7
So...if you see any of these things happening to you, wake up. Always know if something seems too good to be true, it probably is. Cut your losses and give your love to a person who deserves it.
Comments
acole said
on 7/14/2008 Interesting.
vikki9 said
on 6/30/2008 You hit the nail right on the head! Great article. 5*
amylaine said
on 6/29/2008 So true, this needs to be posted on all the bathroom stalls or something. :) 5 stars
AbbyNormal said
on 6/28/2008 Excellent article. I was thinking of writing an article on how to spot a player, but this pretty much covers it. 5 stars and more!
sixstring2slim said
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