How to Date in Single Christian Life

You will learn how to date in Christian life, in order to prepare yourself for marriage life.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• A Bible
• Note pad
• pen or pencil

1. 
   Waiting to here from God about dating.

   Start your day out with a righteous fervant prayer, and reading your Holy Bible. Prayer helps prepare you with the motivation of doing the things, which God has set out for you. In your prayer time, be very specific about the things you desire within a person. Know that you get what you pray for. God does answer dating desire prayers. Psalms 4:3,138:3&8; Matt. 21:21-22

2. 
   A Christian gathering outside of the church.

   Begin by attending the Single's Ministry. It can be within your church ministry, or outside of the church ministry. Make sure you have an approachable attitude when meeting others. Your goal is to meet the person you desire. Know that it does take faith and patience, when waiting to meet the right one that is in Christ Jesus. Prov.15:15; Gen.29:20; Rom.8:24

3. Once you have met the person God has appointed to you, start communicating with that person by phone or email. It gives you time to slowly get to know the person. Remember getting to know someone, could take time. Praying together helps in building up one another faith. Have a mindset, that is filled with standards and boundaries. It helps keep you from excepting, anything a person has to offer. Phil.1:20; Prov.22:4

4. If you are a man, you should know when to make the initial date of going out. If you are a woman, wait until the man ask you out on a date. When praying on a daily basis, your spirit began to let you know when to take it a step further. A much considerable date would be out in a public surrounding, where there are others. Even getting together with Christian couples at home, or going out in a group helps. Sometimes inviting just the individual date over to your place right away, could be a little to cozy. Your thing is to keep from having any type of sexual contact. 1Corith.6:18; Prov.7:1-5; 1Tim.6:11

5. Continue to go out, and get acquainted with one another. Getting together with other Christian couples, works good for a relationship. If the person isn't a member of your church, invite he or she to attend church with you occasionally. Dating someone within your church, can help eliminate certain disagreements. Getting the same understanding, of the word from God in the same church, brings about balance. That is simply your decision, whether you want to attend with the person, or at your own church. 2Tim.2:22; Psalms 119:1-6

6. 
   A special occassion outting.

   If you believe, that you have spent enough time getting to know the other person in likeness, faith, and belief. Invite the person over to meet your family & friends. Even taking the person out on special occasions and during events, shows that there is growth in the relationship. Taking turns on invites can make both persons feel appreciated. Continue to nurture the relationship by bringing in new things to do, as well as praying on a daily basis. You should have much success in working towards getting married. Hebrews 11:1; Prov.16:3,19:8; Col.4:2

Tips & Warnings

• Remember to always pray for your relationship to be an open and honest one.
• Praying helps you to know that, there are people out in the Christian world that is preying on someone to date, for all of the wrong reasons.
• Praying gives you an intuition to find out things about the person you're dating, whether it's a secret life, any kind of life threatening health issue, or even being involved in illegal things etc...
• Make sure your attire of dress code meet up to the standards of God.
• Make sure you keep the right attitude about dating a Christian.
• If the person you're dating, try to get you to stop going to church, you should immediately disconnect from that individual.
• If the person you're dating, try to quickly rush the relationship, that is a sign telling you to pray for spiritual guidance.
• Never look for negative things to happen in the relationship, because it can become a stumbling block for you.
• Remember that your fashion style of clothing can sometimes attract the wrong person.

[jennen]

on 3/27/2009 Thank you for this very insightful article on Christian dating. I am very fond of number 4 because it demonstrates order... five stars

[blaquetweety64]

on 11/15/2008 This is going in my fav 5*

[buitenstaander]

on 10/19/2008 Getting into the Christian single scene is a great place to start. Thanks for writing!

[iamageniuster]

on 10/12/2008 Good tips. I'll start doing this immediately. Thanks.

[Addonis]

on 7/8/2008 great stuff. right on point