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Step 1
Do not panic.Freaking out will not make any difference and won't help. Whatever exposure has come from the lost condom will not be worse with the passage of time. Take a deep breath, reassure the woman that everything will be fine, and move to Step 2.
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Step 2
Prepare to retrieve the condom.The good news is that gravity is on your side. Have the woman get up and go to the bathroom. Sometimes just standing up and moving around will be sufficient. If she is familiar with Kegel exercises, the act of contracting the muscles in the vaginal canal may also be enough to eject the condom.
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Step 3
Go after the condom. Have lubricant handy if necessary. If you do not have any personal lubricant, a neutral oil is best. Ask the woman if she can feel where the condom is. If she can, follow her direction. If not, you will have to search for it. Remember, even though you were just intimate, this is awkward and uncomfortable, so go slow. Gently begin to explore the vagina with a single finger. Use your first finger, as it will allow you the most reach. Start at the bottom and do a complete rotation with your finger flat against the inside. You should come in contact with the condom. If you do not, make another rotation with your finger partially extended, for further reach.
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Step 4
Remove the condom.If you contact the condom with your finger, try to hook it with just the one digit. If this does not work, use a second finger to try to get a scissor grip on the condom. This may not be a quick process and the more you hurry, the more difficult this can be. Again, take a deep breath and relax. If, after this, you are not able to retrieve the condom, do not panic. If the woman is comfortable, she can attempt to retrieve it herself, using similar techniques. If this does not succeed, then you should contact a health professional or go to the emergency room.
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Step 5
Be responsible.Losing a condom causes sex to be unsafe. You may have been exposed to sexually transmitted infections, and you have increased her risk for pregnancy dramatically. If you use a spermicidal lubricant, the odds are less, but you should still both take the opportunity to get screened for infection, and to get Plan B or another emergency oral contraceptive for her. This is available by prescription and over the counter in some states.
