How to get over a break up

Tired of looking and feeling like the people in this picture? Breakups are only as bad as you allow them to be. Didn't that relationship take enough out of you? Let's end the "pity party" cause that is one party not many will come to. A broken relationship is a new beginning in the chapter of your life, so read on...

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Hope
• Faith

1. 
    

   Ok so the relationship is over so what do you do now you ask? Realize that if your relationship has ended it is for a reason. One of you (or both) don't want this anymore, for whatever reason it is over. There is nothing you can do to make it all better. It's over. Once you have faced this fact you can move on. Stop analyzing what went wrong. The "would have, could have, should have" has to stop right here and right now. AGAIN.. it is over.. lets focus on YOU!

2. 
    

   Stop talking incessantly to anyone and everyone about your ex and the breakup. It can be draining to everyone around you which will cause people to alienate you and now is when you need your friends.

3. 
    
   True friends are like diamonds, precious but rare

   Spend time with friends, in the city, shopping, bowling, eating, movies, vacation, a day at the spa (you get the idea). Friends will always cheer you up.

4. 
    
   Feeling strong now

   Go for a jog, join a gym, get active. You'll feel & look better and healthier too.

5. 
    
   Find inner peace

   Meditate. Learn to quiet your mind so you can focus on yourself, your well being & clarity.
   (See the "How to Meditate" article linked below for tips).

6. 
    
   Smile and the world smiles back at you!

   Keep busy. Join a community group, sports, gym, take a class, visit friends, vacation, date, shop, arts n crafts, get a hobby, keep a journal, write ehow articles--(and make money and friends too!)In doing this you will have no time to focus on the past.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't worry that your life is going to end, worry that it will never begin~ Anonymous
• You can't find the future looking in the past.
• Do not stay home, feeling sorry for yourself, overeating, waiting for the phone to ring, focusing on the broken up relationship. This can lead to depression and it will be even harder to move on and get better.

Resources

• How to Meditate
• Feng Shui: Support during a break up

[lyrics56k]

on 10/10/2008 sorry to be the slacker here but how in the world does one get past the ending when one never saw it felt it coming. wise men don' build to destory. how long must it be excepted that you lose your partner break down heart broken beyond repear to say good has come from this how long must it take to get it right and not keep goinig back to our vomit. whats the point of getting close just and get to know someone just not to be able to know how it is your looking at. marriage is not a game.

[essenceoflife]

on 7/19/2008 Thanks a lot. Feeling better already. I don't have too many friends but have started socializing.

[vikki9]

on 6/25/2008 This is a very insightful article - love it! Great, practical, common sense suggestions. Five Stars!