Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Things You’ll Need:
- scarves,pantyhose or novelty bondage items
- a trustworthy partner
- creativity
Step1
Bondage can be an amazing way to assert control over your lover or play partner. Many bottoms and submissives prefer the headspace of being at the whim of their top. What you do to your bound lover once they are helpless is up to what you all have agreed upon. Always play safe, sane and consensually.
If you are trying bondage for he first time start light. You can use scarves, pantyhose or bandanas. Maybe even some of the novelty cuffs you can buy at sex toyshops you’re your would be bound partner is nervous about adding restraints of any kind you can start with holding them down during sex or foreplay, and only go past that as they get more comfortable. When you go to begin the game think of positions you already like to see your partner in. Make sure to display and draw attention to your favorite sexy spots of their body.
Step2
Most of the time simple, bedroom bondage goes off well for both parties. Plan ahead and have a word worked out in case the feeling is too intense. Don’t make the word or phrase something like “no” or” let me go”. Those are words or phrases that many use when in the role of the captive; it needs to be something you wouldn’t ordinarily say in bed like “ flag day” or “Goosebumps”. This safe word is actually important to use in all real time dominance and submission games.
Step3
Don’t forget the reason you are doing this in the first place. To enjoy one another, have fun and try new things together. Now is as good a time as any to toss in some sexual role-play. Think of scenarios with power being exchanged and find one you both find exciting.
If and when you get ready to go beyond light bondage do your research both for the right toys and also for first aid information. There are many websites dedicated to bdsm education and safety. Enjoy
Comments
MissBonnie said
on 8/12/2008 Some great advise here for starting out. Well done!
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