Things You'll Need:
- scarves,pantyhose or novelty bondage items
- a trustworthy partner
- creativity
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Step 1
Bondage can be an amazing way to assert control over your lover or play partner. Many bottoms and submissives prefer the headspace of being at the whim of their top. What you do to your bound lover once they are helpless is up to what you all have agreed upon. Always play safe, sane and consensually.
If you are trying bondage for he first time start light. You can use scarves, pantyhose or bandanas. Maybe even some of the novelty cuffs you can buy at sex toyshops you’re your would be bound partner is nervous about adding restraints of any kind you can start with holding them down during sex or foreplay, and only go past that as they get more comfortable. When you go to begin the game think of positions you already like to see your partner in. Make sure to display and draw attention to your favorite sexy spots of their body. -
Step 2
Most of the time simple, bedroom bondage goes off well for both parties. Plan ahead and have a word worked out in case the feeling is too intense. Don’t make the word or phrase something like “no” or” let me go”. Those are words or phrases that many use when in the role of the captive; it needs to be something you wouldn’t ordinarily say in bed like “ flag day” or “Goosebumps”. This safe word is actually important to use in all real time dominance and submission games.
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Step 3
Don’t forget the reason you are doing this in the first place. To enjoy one another, have fun and try new things together. Now is as good a time as any to toss in some sexual role-play. Think of scenarios with power being exchanged and find one you both find exciting.
If and when you get ready to go beyond light bondage do your research both for the right toys and also for first aid information. There are many websites dedicated to bdsm education and safety. Enjoy













Comments
electron said
on 3/15/2009 Excellent safety precautions! Live to play another day.
phonedomme said
on 2/21/2009 Thank you for the comments. Cinful, you are right on that tip of course. :)
cinful said
on 2/21/2009 I would add: Never leave a bound person unattended. Good article. :-)