How to End a Relationship without Fighting

Ending a relationship is always stressful. Handling the break up in the proper way is essential to maintaining an amicable relationship with your partner.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• patience
• a good attitude
• a calm demeanor

1. Before you begin talking to your partner about ending the relationship, sit down and make a list of all the positive and negative aspects of your relationship. Narrow it down to the top five most important ones on each side.
2. Approach your partner at a time when both of you are calm. Don't try to talk to him the moment he walks in the door from work. Choose a time when you are both in a quiet state of mind. You might want to choose a public place to talk, such as a restaurant, so that your partner will be less likely to make a dramatic scene.
3. Begin talking to your partner by telling her about how you have appreciated some of the positive aspects of the relationship, using examples from your list.
4. Move on to the negative aspects and tell her that you think it's time that you end the relationship. Remind your partner that you want her to be happy and moving on is the only way to make that happen because right now, both of you are making each other miserable.
5. Listen to what your significant other has to say. Make sure that you listen to any arguments that she may have before you make it final. After she is finished talking, tell her that you are glad you had the opportunity to be with her and that you hope you will both grow from the experience.

Tips & Warnings

• If you are already seeing someone else, don't dwell on it in the conversation. This breakup is about the two of you,not a third party.
• If your partner has a tendency to be violent, don't hesitate to leave. Don't bother giving an explanation, just get out.
• There are plenty of women's shelters to help you get out of a violent relationship.