Things You'll Need:
- A generous and compassionate spirit
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Step 1
Call first. Ask if there is anything you can pick up for her while you're out, and make sure she doesn't already have company. Too many people at once is overwhelming, and may make her feel obligated to play hostess.
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Step 2
Newborn babies are very vulnerable to other people's germs, so don't come over if you have the least symptom of sickness (even if you think it may be just allergies - better to err on the safe side). Always wash your hands and use hand santizer, even if you never come near the baby.
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Step 3
Make sure it's OK with the new mommy before you bring any kids with you (some don't feel comfortable refusing, so leave them at home with a sitter if you possibly can). Don't let them touch the baby unless the mother specifically invites them to (don't ask - again, some mothers may be uncomfortable with the idea, but are too polite to say no). If your child has the slightest symptom of sickness (even if you just think it's teething or allergies), don't bring them with you.
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Step 4
Bring over a meal. First ask if there's anything that she prefers (or doesn't like), and if tonight's meal is already covered, bring something frozen for her to heat up later. Side dishes and snacks like salad, rolls or homemade cookies are great, too.
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Step 5
Instead of just asking if there's anything you can do (again, some moms are too polite to ask for help), ask "HOW would you like this done?". Wash dishes, sweep the floor, or throw in or fold a load of laundry. DON'T just hold the baby while SHE takes care of household chores. It's the new mom's job to comfort, care for, and bond with baby. It's family and friend's job to take care or everything else.
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Step 6
Wash your hands and use sanitizer before touching the baby. Again, if Mom doesn't offer to let you hold the baby, don't put her in an awkward position by asking. Respect her maternal protectiveness, unless she invites you.
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Step 7
Sometimes an older sibling may feel overlooked. Be sure to pay plenty of attention to the big sister/brother, even more than to the baby. A small gift may be appreciated, too. Offer to take the older child for awhile to give the new mom a break.
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Step 8
Keep it brief. New moms get exhausted quickly, so keep the visiting time short. If you're staying awhile to do a few chores, offer her the chance to nap, take a shower, or watch TV, so she doesn't feel obligated to entertain.
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Step 9
Keep it upbeat. Nature's cocktail of postpartum hormones makes new mommies particularly sensitive. Don't discuss anything depressing or irritating. Stick with positive topics. Baby blues are normal, but if you suspect postpartum depression, let her know you're there for her
Comments
oneloved said
on 6/20/2008 Don't worry, eHow is just having a few glitches. It was showing the wrong pics on some articles for awhile, too, but it's cleared up now. Thanks for the rating! :)
madams1982 said
on 6/20/2008 Why does it show me giving only half a star??? :(
madams1982 said
on 6/20/2008 Why does it show me giving only half a star??? :(
madams1982 said
on 6/18/2008 Wow, as always...thanks for sharing your tips! This is certainly some fantastic advice to follow!