How to Have Healthy Communication in a Relationship

Every relationship must have healthy communication in order to thrive and grow. If you struggle with communication in your relationship, read below to find several tips on how to have a better relationship through healthy communication.

Instructions

1. Don't make assumptions. Many of the communication problems that couples face stem from the fact that many times they make assumptions about what the other person means. Ask if you need to.

2. Ask plenty of questions. When speaking with your partner, ask as many questions as you need to in order to understand where the other person is coming from. Don't do all the talking yourself—ask questions.

3. Really listen to your partner. It's easy to partially listen while doing something else, but it is much more respectful of your partner to stop what you're doing and listen. Take the time to hear and understand.

4. Ask for what you need. Don't be afraid to communicate your needs. In fact, for the relationship to thrive, you need to. So make sure you ask for the things you need.

5. Be loving and respectful. Even if you are having a disagreement, you can show love and respect by not raising your voice, by listening and acknowledging the other person's feelings.

6. Use "I" statements to communicate your feelings rather than "you" statements. This communicates that you take ownership of your feelings and aren't trying to blame the other person.

7. Make time for communication to happen. If you don't make time for it, communication often doesn't happen. Make sure you spend time daily sharing your thoughts and feelings with each other.

Tips & Warnings

• Try to see things from your partner's point of view.

• Be careful of your initial reaction to something. Think before you speak.

• Don't leap into the fray if you are angry. Take some time to cool off before you attempt to communicate with your partner.