Things You'll Need:
- Honesty
- Patience
- Understanding
- Creative Thinking
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Step 1
Open the discussion by telling your spouse what you like about him. It's important for him to know that there are things he does between the sheets that do turn you on. Simply starting out with the negative aspects of your intimate encounters sets up your spouse to be on the defensive.
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Step 2
Remind your spouse of your love for each other. Anything that you can talk about together has the potential to bring you closer to one another and make your relationship stronger. Sex is no exception to this.
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Step 3
Gently explain that some of the things she does don't always make it onto your list of turn-ons. Instead of criticizing her, tell her what things you would like her to do more often. It's imperative that she knows there are alternative turn-ons for you.
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Step 4
Suggest that you try new positions, as well as enumerating places you would like to be touched. You can choose to start out slow and try one thing at a time. If your spouse doesn't want to experiment, respect his wishes.
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Step 5
Ask for feedback from your spouse. It's only fair that she have an opportunity to tell you what she would like you to do more or less often. Remember to give her the same opportunity to talk as openly as you did.
