How to Understand the Games Men Play

If you’ve even remotely experienced the dating scene, you know that men tend to play games. These games tend to frustrate women and make them try even harder to secure the attention of the man. In the end, this turns the man off, and he ends up moving on. These simple steps will help you understand the games that men play.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Understand that men are turned on by the women who play it coy. Playing it coy makes the guy realize that you’re not going to give it up easily, and it will take some work to win you over. Some women may believe that giving a guy what he wants immediately will put them in his good graces. The opposite is actually true!
2. Realize that he wants be the “man." Games are often about boosting a man’s ego. If a guy waits to call you, he feels he is keeping you at his mercy. If you return the call immediately or act too eager, you are confirming that he is the man and validating his ego. If a guy takes time to call you, take time to return his call.
3. Understand that it’s the thrill of the hunt. Notice that it’s not about what he can catch. Rather, it's about what he can hunt. In other words, instant gratification is not as satisfying as something that takes some work. If he is only about the hunt, it will be obvious, and you can decide whether or not he’s worth your time.
4. Realize the bottom line is validation. You may wonder why it is that men play games. A huge part of it is that they want validation. Men often get validation through the games that they play. Women tend to make the mistake of trying harder when a guy is playing games. As a result, men get validation through their little games and continue to play them with other women.
5. Recognize that games are kept to a minimum when a guy truly likes a girl. This simple little fact is crucial when it comes to weeding out the guys who are looking for a relationship and the guys who are looking for other things. If a guy is really into a girl, he won’t want to play games because he won’t want to risk losing a good thing. If he’s playing games, it’s either about finding a hookup or validating his ego.

Tips & Warnings

• Take your time to return his call if he takes time to call you. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
• If a guy is playing games, it’s likely that he isn’t serious about forging a relationship.