How to Deal with a Spouse with Asperger' s Syndrome
Dealing with a spouse who has Asperger's Syndrome is not a simple thing to do. However, following a few simple tips can make life easier for both of you.
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Observe Your Spouse
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Listen to everything your spouse says. Those with Asperger's are often not the greatest communicators. It is up to you to ask the right questions to get the information that you want. If you ask general questions, you will get general answers. Be specific and it will help them to know what it is that you are asking.
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Watch. Body language is very important. Learn to read your spouse's body language so that you can pick up on cues to how they are feeling. Your spouse may not tell you when he is upset but, if you pay attention to their body language, you can usually tell and respond appropriately.
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Speak their language. Sometimes those with Asperger's have particular or quirky expressions. Learn to relate to them by using expressions that they use in their language to you.
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Be as patient as you can. If your spouse is having a hard time expressing himself, patience on your part will go a long way.
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Get help. Talking to others who have spouses with Asperger's can help you to cope. Use on-line resources to find a group near you.
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just venting right now
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be ten parts maschoist, two parts perpetual "ambassador" or interpreter, 2 parts scapegoat for everything wrong in his/her world, 1 part lunatic, 3 parts saint...100% why did I sign up for this...was "stability" so lacking in my life?
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I sat Amen to that. I've tried sooo hard to be the right person for 45 years and it hasn't worked. Our children and now our grandchildren are being affected by this.
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Melanie Jean Mayfield
Mar 05, 2011
Why is all the burden put on the partner? It's the person with Asperger's who needs to stop being mean, selfish, violent, etc. People with other mental illnesses/disorders aren't excused when they misbehave.
