Candlelit dinners and long-stem roses are nice -- but so unoriginal. Take a more personalized approach to show that special someone how much you care. Revealing and reinforcing your love takes more than thoughtful gifts -- it also takes strategies for keeping the mood positive, making it through the tough times and being a true team.
Offering just-because gifts that show you’ve been paying close attention will establish that your love is ongoing and always available. If your significant other studies late into the night, a coffee-themed gift basket will show you sympathize with the rigors of that schedule. If your partner likes gardening, buy a pair of high-quality gloves when the rose bushes start blooming. Pick up a copy of the brand-new book from your sweetheart’s favorite author and deliver it with a “thinking of you” note.
Protect the Good Vibes
You can show how much you care for another person by refusing to let arguments and other sources of strife take over the relationship, says psychologist John Grohol in the Psych Central article “6 Ways to Show You Care.” While nice gestures do make a difference, they can quickly become buried under resentment or lost in the distance between you when you frequently fight. Stop an argument before it gains traction by saying, “I would rather discuss this when we’re both calm, because you’re more important to me than this issue.”
Through the Dark Times
You need a strategy for showing you care through times of suffering as well as happy moments. You can show love and therefore maintain a positive relationship by focusing on small acts of kindness and compassion. Show that you care through the darker moments by offering frequent hugs, taking over household tasks so your loved one can rest, listening without judgment or distraction or even making and enjoying “comfort food” together.
Get on the Team
Showing you care includes constantly acknowledging what the two of you have together. Talk about relationship matters in terms of what “we” should do, encourage your partner through work problems or conflicts with friends and accept the fact that you will be influenced by your partner’s wishes, advises the article, “Understanding and Managing Relationship Problems,” on the Australian Psychological Society website. Show how much you care and acknowledge your partner’s influence by asking for advice on a conflict with your boss or even asking how your partner likes your hairstyle.
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