How to Put Kids in Time Out
Although many parents feel that time out doesn’t work well for their kids, when you learn the time out basics you’ll see that it works a whole lot better than you ever many have thought. When you follow these simple steps, you’ll be able to put your kid in time out and you’ll soon see that when it comes to great behavior, putting kids in time out can take minimal effort to get maximum results.
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Instructions
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How to Put Kids in Time Out
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Identify the offending behavior. When using time out it's important to address the behavior as acceptable or unaccceptable, rather than the kid as good or bad. A good example is "Hands aren't for hitting. We don't hit, it's not acceptable." When you make a statement like this you leave no room for confusion as to just what it is that he is doing wrong. You also avoid labeling your kid as a bad kid. Remember labels stick!
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Give one warning. "That's your warning. If you hit again, you will go to time out." Avoid getting into long lectures about behavior. Keep the warning short and sweet and speak in a low, calm voice. Keep your emotions in check as you specifically address what behavior needs to stop.
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Follow through. If your child does not heed your warning, immediately follow through and put your kid in time out. Take him by the hand and lead him to a safe and sturdy seat. Say nothing but "You've earned a time out." Don't barter, beg or yell. You're the boss! If he attempts to get out or wiggles and squirms, help him to stay seated by holding him on your lap.
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Keep your cool. Resist the urge to talk to your kid when he is in time out. If your kid gets out of time out, help him back to his seat without saying a word. Silence can be a powerful parenting tool.
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When his time out is completed tell your kid he may get up. Let the behavior and consequence stay in the past and avoid asking questions like "Do you know why you were in time out?" and instead look for a moment to purposely praise your child. Noticing and commenting on behaviors like sharing, using words, and taking turns can help reinforce acceptable behavior.
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Tips & Warnings
A child should be put in time out for one minute for each year of his age. A two year old should sit in time out for two minutes.
You MUST be consistent for any discipline method to work, especially time out.
You MUST be prepared to follow through and do what you are say you are going to do.
When it comes to tanturms, ignore them. Without an audience they usually quickly stop.
Be sure select a safe location for your time out seat. The floor, a child size chair, or a stool will work well.
