Things You'll Need:
- Confidence
- Sex Appeal
- Self-Respect
- Femininity
- Love for YOU
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Step 1
1. Just relate. Don't let 'commitment' be the goal of your relating.
You know that saying about people being in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime? Why is it then that some women think that every attractive/successful/available man might be their "lifetime"? Really, the odds are slim.
Change your thinking and see every guy you meet as being a "reason"... to spend some time with and learn something from him. This leads to a pressure-free, relaxed way of relating (which men find incredibly alluring). -
Step 2
2. Find your signature scent.
Whether it's Victoria's Secret Heavenly mixed something from Bath and Body Works, or Caress soap and Pantene Shampoo... figure out what soap, perfume, body lotion, and/or hair product combination smells uniquely YOU. -
Step 3
3. Be ALL woman... except for a few masculine traits.
To seduce a man, dress like a woman. Act like a woman. Walk like a woman (yeah girl, strut your stuff!).
Learn how to dance... seductive dance especially.
Have a soothing, soft, throaty tone to your voice. Not really high-pitched (girly) voice, but a suggestive, feminine one.
Then, when you're all woman-like, play up your masculine trait(s). The art of seduction lies in someone not being able to figure you out... make him want to get to know you by showing the depth of your character. -
Step 4
4. Have your own mind and provide mental stimulation.
A man may initially be attracted to a woman because of her beauty, but he wants to have someone he can talk to... someone who "gets" him. Keep your conversation interesting. Bonus points if you develop a killer sense of humor. -
Step 5
5. Flirt with him, but be subtle.
If you are going to seduce a man, you need to learn how to flirt. ASAP. :) Show him that you are interested, but don't overdo it. A smile, a sidelong glance, laughing at his jokes (if they're funny), all work to let him know you're enjoying him. -
Step 6
6. After dating for a little while, let him know that you WANT him.
Men want to be desired just as much as we do. If you show a man that you want him sexually, you can really drive him wild. Let him know that he turns you on and that you find him "sexy".
So many women start dating a guy and after awhile use the words "cute" or "adorable" to describe him. Call him "Sexy" and watch his eyes light up. ;-) -
Step 7
7. Have fun all the time and enjoy your life!
Men want to be taken away from their problems. Do not BE the problem.
Be so thrilled with life that you radiate excitement and energy!
You can do this by loving yourself first. Loving yourself will not only seduce a man, it will be attractive to everyone you meet! Self-love gives off a sexy vibe; so fall in love with your life first and you will be a fun woman who men want to be around.
For more tips on loving YOU visit www.firstloveyou.com -
Step 8
8. When it comes to the physical, move a little slower than he wants (but do eventually give in and surrender. ;-) )
Two steps forward, one step back. Kiss him passionately and then pull back. Let him start to round the bases, then send him back to first.
Seduction is all about delaying gratification. That's "delaying" gratification. Don't be a tease... eventually gratify. ;-) -
Step 9
9. Enjoy sex!
Seriously, there's nothing else to say... it does a body good. -
Step 10
10. Stand up for yourself... but don't be a drama queen/whiny/preachy/nag.
Men cannot stand your overflow of emotion, so don't let it get there. If he does something disrespectful, don't pout, sulk, whine, cry, call to yell at him, blah blah blah.
The effect it has on him is "Ahhh, get me AWAY from this emotional situation". He will pull away from you.
Instead, be cool and calm. Tell him that you won't tolerate "xyz" from anyone who wants to be in a relationship with you. State it matter-of-factly and with conviction.
A woman who can hold her own, and not be an emotional wreck when she's upset, is highly attractive... Seduce a man by keeping your emotions in check. -
Step 11
11. If you've got skills, cook for him.
Mm, Mmm, MMMM, nothing can keep a man away from a strong Alpha Female who can throw down in the kitchen. Don't cook for him all the time... the novelty of it will soon wear off. Do cook for him on special occasions and/or because he's been extra nice to you.
And when you cook that meal, put your heart in it... for some reason this makes your special dish that much more delicious.
Send me a message here (or at info@firstloveyou.com) if you want my "Make A Man Feel Like A Man" Pot Roast recipe. :)
Happy Relating, You Sexy Alpha Female~
Comments
ladysabrina said
on 12/23/2009 I like the part where you said don't cook for him all the time. That's wise, because you make it more special and novel, if it's once in a while and well deserved.
nccu9902 said
on 5/20/2009 Superb article!!! 5***
Pixie1976 said
on 7/3/2008 Yes, five stars. Women need to realize the alpha female is why men go to strip clubs. However, men need to realize women aren't always going to be forward and they still need to make the first move sometimes.
showpup said
on 6/23/2008 Love the way you put it all together like this. Made me want to stand and applaud you! 5 stars
ActorAndHost said
on 6/18/2008 I like that. I've been a student of what women want all my life. You can never learn enough or get enough different points of view. Very interesting!