How to Stop Stalking
Sometimes the emotional attachment you feel to another person may compel you to follow the other person around and attempt to spend every waking moment with the person. When the affection is not returned your actions may evolve into stalking. You cannot continue stalking because it's unproductive for you and creates a potentially dangerous situation for everyone involved. Read on to learn how to stop stalking.
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Instructions
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Recognize that you're a stalker. It's one thing to pine over someone and pursue her, but it is another thing entirely to feel so consumed by this attraction that you do things that most people would consider unreasonable. If you are aggressively pursuing someone, yet the person is not responding or has even called you a stalker, then there is a good chance that your actions are bordering on stalking. You want to stop this before it goes too far and you wind up with legal action against you.
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Tell the person you are stalking that you are going to leave her alone. This not only acts as a way to ease her mind, but as a definitive step for you toward ending the stalking behavior. Once you say you're going to stop, then make that your starting point of no more stalking. Realize that the other person is simply not intended to be with you, and there is someone else out there who will love you without any stalking necessary.
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Find a replacement behavior. Stalking can take up a lot of time and you may find that once you stop stalking you aren't really sure what to do with your time. Try to find something productive to do that will keep you busy and won't allow you the time necessary in order to stalk the object of your affection. Let something else become your passion, whether it's a hobby, volunteering or a job.
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Seek out professional help if necessary. Your stalking behavior may be indicative of a mental health issue that needs to be addressed, so make an appointment with a counselor or therapist in order to learn some coping mechanisms and get some prescription medication if necessary.
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Forgive yourself for your behavior. Do not brand yourself as an obsessive stalker for the rest of your life, especially if you seek out the help you need in order to change your behavior. People can change, but it depends largely on their desire to change.
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Tips & Warnings
It can be difficult to change your behavior, so do not expect an immediate change in your desire to stalk someone.
If you have thoughts about hurting the object of your affection, seek professional mental health assistance immediately.
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thanks Corinna, you are one of the few people that have actually seen her stalking in action! She couldn't even leave us alone for the kids father to see them on Courtney's birthday - the bbq at the park. She deliberatley did that to show Nathan that we would walk away cause she turned up. Talk about sick! She only did that to prove she could. Pisses me off. Thanks Brenda, a lot of people know what she has done, it's just a pity that my dumb ass siblings can't see her in action, cause it's their mother, their blinded by that fact, and don't want to look at it for what it really is.
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Naw do this has been happening for a long time it is time to put it to rest I've even been witness to some of this behavior like at the park last year not good she is causing you too much stress and Leon although I may not live with him is a great father and husband it takes a good man to take on someone elses kids too best of luck
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very wrong what a horrid women onday soon it will bite her ass get the dvo what a bitch
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My own mother stalks me. It makes me angry, that she can not accept that her behaviour is why I don't want to know her. She blames my husband for me cutting off from the family. But they all back her, and can't see that it is her stalking and harrassing behaviour is what I don't want, or need. She resorts to following me home from work to get my new address. She searches the web to get my email address from my dressmaking ad's. Eventhough I block her, she still get's messages to me. Drops them in my mail box too. She has also done this to my nephew who feels the same way as I do. He and I both are having to resort to a DVO to try to stop her. She has already expressed to me that she doesn't care if I get one against her, cause no one will tell her what to do. This is a worry for me.... I have 5 children who I have cut off from her because of her obsessive behaviour, she can not see that it is her and her alone that is the problem. For me there is no going back.... I can not have a relationship with my mother ever again, she has made so many accusations, about my husband controlling me.... he is the sweetest man, and it is so unfair she talks about him like that. My Dad says she is so obsessed all she talks about is getting me to do what she wants. This is a concern, she can not see what she is doing is wrong.
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shoreline
Sep 14, 2009
Free Advise: Think of the future when you will have the joy of first kiss with someone new. Now let go of the person you want to stalk. That person is not right for you even if you had fun and good times in the past. Things change, and so must we. It is your opportunity to find new paths that engross you in new ways. You are being led by higher source to grow and connect to new people. Peace be with you.
