Step1
Chemical reaction is a great feeling, but it doesn't make for a good mate. You will want to look for certain things.
Step2
Honesty. Do they move from one lie to the next? If the person is telling a great story about themselves regarding money, career or other then challenge them to prove it. If they own a house you want to see the papers AND the house. Inside and out.
They claim they are ready to settle down and you are perfect. How many others have the told this same story to in the last year! Check around, check out dating sites and if they are listed stay away from them.
Step3
Single? They take your phone number and give you their cell number. They won't tell you where they live exactly. You can call at work, but make sure no one knows it's a personal call. They like to meet you in places away from everyone or just your own apartment. You never get to meet their family or friends, because they are busy, unlikeable, rude, ect. These are signs of a married person. Run!!!!!
Step4
Job. They have a great job. They just got it and the bosses love them. They are going to make a lot of changes and move up fast. When and where was the last job? How long did it last? Maybe the person is a job hopper and this is not a good sign of stability. They are always searching for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. It would be a hard, poor life with this person.
Step5
They want to be with you every minute of the day and night. They call your job all the time just to say hi. They want to meet all your friends as soon as possible. When they do meet your friends they start to tell you who is wrong for you and what they think. They begin to tell you how to better yourself from everything you wear to everything you eat. Becareful. This is a sign of a very controlling person requiring constant attention and no interference from anyone else. Soon you'll have no family, friends or job. Only them. Danger, warning, red flags!
Step6
Look for someone willing to listen to you and easily talk back. They do not brag a lot and are slow moving into love. They are careful and this is a good sign. They think about what they do before jumping from the financial cliff.
Step7
They must be kind to you. Do they treat you right? Do they like you the way you are? We are need to change a little and adjust in a new relationship to bring it together. But we do not have to change everything about ourselves such as a better tan, lose weight, dress in blue, become rich, buy me diamonds, buy me a car. Too controlling.
Step8
Careful with money. Looks at the investment of their cash. Does not throw it around freely and is not a stingy miser either. You don't want to live in a poor house just because they are going to have the biggest savings in the world. You will want a happy medium. Someone who will discuss finance and how to invest money brought in together.
Step9
Do a criminal background check! It's ok. It has nothing to do with trust. It's smart. The only reason a person would yell about not trusting them when you do a criminal background check is someone with something to hide! Becareful. If you can live with what you find out then go for it. But if it is going to effect your life in a negitive way then run. Physical abusive people do not change! So do not choose one just because you think it will be different with you. It won't!
Step10
Move slowly in the relationship. Take your time. Learn to know each other and if you can live with the habits, problems and pleasure for the next 40 years of your life. Good luck.
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