How to Make the First Move

Initiating can be worrisome at times whether it be for the first kiss or asking for the first date. Yet there are few things that can give us more confidence then when the first move is a successful or meaningful one in a relationship. Knowing how to make the first move can be the difference in making a good impression or not.

Instructions

How to Make the First Move

1. Do some recon on the situation. No, don't spy, but pay attention to what's going on by asking yourself what your goals are and how you would best achieve them. Focus is the key when you are aiming to achieve contact with a 'target'.

2. Plan some of what you are going to say or do. Make sure not to over-plan everything, as you may not want to come off as a robot. Use your imagination to leave the moment with your mark to show who you are and to make the best impression according to the situation.

3. Build your confidence by practicing what you are going to do or say. Visualize what you are going to say in your mind if you are in a situation where you may not be able to act it out. This works well when you are trying to make a move and are in a 'live' incident such as on a date.

4. Make contact with the target. Now is the time when it is for 'real' and practice and planning are out the window. Remember that if you don't work up the courage to make the move, you will never know what the outcome will be.

5. Prepare for the reaction. Sometimes things that you may plan may be unexpected to others and can stun a person or he may simply reject your move and you need to be ready to deal with the consequences. No one likes to be rejected, but it is a fact of life.

6. Improvise if you are more confident in your skills and abilities for unforeseen 'kinks'. Things will not always as planned and responses will vary and so should your reaction based on what happens. Adapting is a part of nature.

Tips & Warnings

• Be sure not to overdo anything especially if you don't know the person well.