How to Improve Family Dynamics

If your family is arguing more than it's getting along or seems to be on the verge of becoming completely dysfunctional, it's time to evaluate how you view and relate to one another. Change your family dynamics to improve your relationships and the atmosphere of your home.

Instructions

1. Reconsider your roles. If you're feeling resentful because you're always the one who cleans the house, makes dinner, disciplines the kids or helps with homework, for example, switch responsibilities from time to time to get out of the rut.

2. Eliminate labels in your family. If you constantly call your kids dramatic, shy, unreliable or selfish, for example, they may subconsciously live up to those reputations. Allow family members to act and express feelings without worrying that you'll pigeonhole them because of it.

3. Give your children the opportunity to establish their own identities and make mistakes along the way. If you micromanage their lives and give them the third degree whenever they make a decision or attempt to exert their independence, they may rebel or become secretive, leading to family conflict.

4. Be open and honest with one another to stimulate interesting and valuable family conversations. Learn to trust, support and really listen to each other. Discuss your differences until you're satisfied with the outcome instead of walking away angry. Forgive each other for prior arguments. Take the time to talk even amidst your hectic daily schedule.

5. Schedule regular "family nights" and put work, school, friends and cell phones aside and devote your attention to the rest of the family. Cook dinner, watch movies, play games or sing karaoke, for example. Learn to be silly with one another, laugh and make happy memories that will improve the way you interact in the future.

6. Consider consulting a family therapist if you've been experiencing power struggles, arguments, mistrust or resentment and can't seem to improve the family dynamics on your own. (See Resources)

Resources

• Therapists can help with family dynamics.