How to Make Living Arrangements For Children During a Divorce

Divorce can be hard on children as they learn to adjust to a new family dynamic. Among the hardest things for children to deal with is being separated from either parent. Although you and your children will be feeling complex emotions, business still has to be done. Making living arrangements for children during divorce is not easy but can be managed with the right preparation.

Instructions

The Children Come First

1. Put aside personal issues with your spouse. The focus should be placed on coming to the best solution for the children's happiness. Take the time to express this to your spouse and try to work together.

2. Assess financial situations and work schedules. The splitting of the household may create financial problems for both parties. Be sure to factor in payment for child care and travel costs when assessing the finances of both households. Plan to rearrange existing work schedules and vacation times to accommodate needed changes.

3. Examine the children's current situation. Are your children involved in school or community activities? If so, taking them away from positive situations should be avoided. Discuss your intentions with the children's school to prevent delays in releasing student information.

4. Involve the children. Ask older children for their preferences and input before making final decisions. Explain the situation to younger children being sure to address any of their fears and concerns. This will make the children feel their opinions are important. Adjust your plans to include some of the children's wishes.

5. Ensure the proper paperwork is completed. Check state laws to make sure any documents such as custody and child support agreements are filed. School systems may need this paperwork to process applications or give out sensitive information.

Tips & Warnings

• Leave negativity out of the new family equation. Your children will benefit from a positive example.

• Consider joint custody whenever possible to encourage close relationships with both parents.

• Avoid arguing and unnecessary fighting around your children. Loud voices can be heard through bedroom walls.