How to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom

Many marriages get into a rut in the romance or intimacy department but passion doesn't have to be a thing of the past. Spicing things up in the bedroom can also spice things up in your marriage as well. Follow these tips to learn what you can do to excite your partner and probably yourself in the process.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• An Open Mind
• Some Toys
• A Few Sexy Outfits

Spicing Things up in the Bedroom

1. First, make certain that you and your partner have some alone time together. If this means getting a babysitter or making sure that the kids stay in their own beds, plan your time and make certain that everyone adheres to your schedule. Make the time together intimate time. It doesn't necessarily have to lead to sex but lay on the bed next to each other. Hold hands. Talk to each other.

2. Second, schedule dates together. Although spontaneity is exciting, careers and family tend to get in the way. Scheduling a day or two or even three each week to spend a little more quality time with your partner in the bedroom.

3. Third, leave your partner love notes telling him or her what they can expect during your next "date night." Be descriptive and don't be afraid to use a little imagination and share with your partner what you fantasize about. A spicy little note can keep your partner going all day in anticipation of what is to come. Then tell your partner in person when you meet next or on the phone later that day.

4. Fourth, try a little role playing. Dress as a nurse or a doctor and ask your partner if it is time for their next checkup. Make certain that they get a lollipop. Some couples like to meet in bars and pretend to pick each other up. Costumes can be found in almost any adult stores and can be used multiple times during intimate moments.

5. Fifth, be generous. Feel free to guide your partner and tell him or her what makes you feel best. Give as much or even more than you get from your partner. The key to good loving is taking care of your partners needs and making certain that your partner understands what your needs are.

6. Finally, break the routine. We get so used to our everyday lives that when we fall into routines it is sometimes very hard to break out. Surprise your partner with an afternoon tryst or wake up your partner with a little morning love. A little surprise can go a long way to spicing things up.

Tips & Warnings

• Try a change of scenery. Rent a hotel room for a night, light candles and try massage oils. Even pop in a video and see who gets aroused first.
• Slow things down. We get busy in our everyday lives and spending time with each other does not mean rushing through sex to get it over with. Linger a little and make it last.
• Always complement your partner. Tell him or her how much you appreciate them, how good they look or how good it was. Positivity can ignite passion as well.
• Leave the lights on. Try using a mirror. Take a shower together. Explore others ways to increase the intimacy level.
• Don't be afraid to try new things in the bedroom. We don't eat the same food everyday so why always stick with the same positions? Pick a new position and try it out. You may surprise your partner and yourself.
• You need to make sure that your bedroom is a comfortable place. Poor lighting and too much clutter can make it hard to concentrate.

[JenBrody]

on 6/9/2008 Where can I get the schoolgirl outfit? :)