How to Tell Your Partner You Have Herpes

You are not alone! It is very important that you understand that before you take the steps needed to tell your partner that you have herpes. An estimated 45 million Americans suffer from the effects of this viral infection. So there is no need to be embarrassed or ashamed. In fact, speaking as a doctor's daughter, you and your partner can live a normal, happy life despite this obstacle.

Instructions

1. Be certain that you do actually have the virus. Get tested more than once from your doctor, and ask a lot of questions. If you do not have a regular physician, be sure the clinic that is testing you is reputable. Usually the best way to determine that is word of mouth. Ask your local pharmacist or even close friends and family if they can recommend a particular clinic. (you don't have to tell them why). The idea is to get a proper diagnosis.

2. Do your research! Find out everything you can about the herpes virus. Doctors can give you good information, and you can also find plenty of it online. You want to be prepared to respond to any questions and fears that your partner has when you choose to tell them. All of this knowledge will help put your mind at ease as well.

3. Figure out the right time to tell your partner. Sometimes when we are stressed about things of this sort, we tend to blurt things out at the wrong moment. Avoid that at all cost! Choose a time when you are both at ease, without any other distractions, so you can sit down and talk together.

4. Try not to build it up too much. Don't call them on the phone at work and tell them "I need to talk to you later about something important". Just sit them down at the right time and place, and tell them calmly: "I care for you deeply, and I think it is time you know something more about me". This is just a suggestion. Always choose words that make you feel comfortable. Then they, in turn, should feel comfortable as well.

5. Be prepared for a number of different reactions from your partner! Some people fall silent, some get upset, others actually giggle ... trying to play it off. Everyone will react differently to news like this. And remember, this is just the initial reaction. If the questions about herpes don't come immediately, know they will come eventually. You can feel confident that you have prepared yourself for this with your doctor's advice and your own personal research.

Tips & Warnings

• Bring your partner to see your doctor to talk about herpes, if they are willing.

• Keep up to date on the latest treatments.

• Never be careless about protecting your partner from the virus.