How to Recover From an Abusive Relationship
Recovering from an abusive relationship is a long and arduous journey. It is painful and challenging. People who have suffered from abuse by the hand of a loved one often struggle with post traumatic stress disorder and a very marred self-perception. An abused person has been completely controlled for so long that freedom can be scary. There is hope. Follow these tips to begin the journey to healing and recovery.
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Journey to Recovery
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Get support. Join a local support group for people recovering from abuse. No one knows more about the challenges an abused person is facing than another person facing those same obstacles. Also, it is important to have a strong support system. The abuser’s main tool has been isolation. Do not allow yourself to be alone with your thoughts and fears. You need positive reinforcement to help you heal.
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Avoid getting into another serious relationship too soon. Many people feel the urge to jump right into another committed relationship just after leaving the abuser. It is a natural reaction. For one, the abuser has convinced the victim they are incapable of doing anything right on their own. Therefore, the abused person feels needy. Also, the abused person has probably been suffering with extreme loneliness for some time. Avoid the temptation to enter into another committed relationship. You need to work on building a healthy self-esteem and putting the pain of the past behind you before you will be ready to be with another partner.
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Find yourself! After being controlled for so long you need to spend some time getting to know yourself again. What are your goals? What are your dreams? What are your hobbies? You are now free to chart your own course through life.
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Do self-affirmations every day. The self-esteem of an abused person has been completely shattered. You need to spend time every day telling yourself all of the things that are great about you and why. It will take work, but you can rewire your brain to love yourself again.
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Give it time. Recovery is a marathon not a sprint. Do not be discouraged by thinking you should be further along in the healing process than you are. You have been through a lot and it takes time to recover from trauma. Give yourself credit. You left the abuser and you are working on yourself. Allow yourself time and things will get better.
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Tips & Warnings
If you share custody of children with your abuser, have a neutral mediator oversee the drop-offs and pick-ups in a public place to ensure your safety.
It may be easier to recover from abuse with the help of a counselor.
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I had a baby with a abusive partner and his mates & family ignore it, & thought I was being a pain, I went into myslf, and I hate that people close an eye to horrible things like that, they should be disown & told what they are doing is wrong. and loss all right to their kids. as my ex said hit a child is fine....den only then I left him.
