Things You'll Need:
- -journal
- -notepad
- -reliable friends
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Step 1
Look for the signs and acknowledge them. Often times the spouse who is being cheated on will recognize the signs but choose to disregard them. Men seem to do this more than women because they don’t overanalyze things like women do. If you suspect something is wrong, it’s likely something is wrong. Human intuition is a powerful thing. Use a journal to record your feelings and thoughts. This will come in handy when you’re putting everything together.
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Step 2
Evaluate your girlfriend’s behavior. Look for the little things. Is she suddenly changing her style? Does she seem to have less time for you? And worst of all, does she seem to have less of a desire to be with you? If you answer yes to most of these questions then it’s possible your girlfriend might be cheating. It is helpful to write down some questions on a notepad and answer them. Make a promise to be honest with yourself. This puts everything into perspective.
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Step 3
Utilize the grape vine. Listen to what your friends tell you and look further into it. If your friends have seen your girlfriend with a new guy or notice some unsavory behavior, it’s likely they will tell you. When you find this out, don’t react right away. Look further into the claims and find out if there is truth to any of the allegations or if they are just a mere coincidence.
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Step 4
Carefully analyze the evidence you find and build the strongest case you can. Keep in mind that some evidence you come across may be merely circumstantial. Don’t automatically react. Instead, figure out what the possible explanations could be and decide whether or not these explanations are logical to you.
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Step 5
Stage the confrontation. Once you’ve gathered all the evidence you need, it’s time to confront your girlfriend. Don’t be surprised if she is defensive and gets angry at you for questioning her loyalty. It’s likely that she’ll deny doing anything wrong and will have an excuse for every accusation you make. However, when it boils down to it, what you think is the only thing that matters.
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Step 6
Make a decision. If you believe her and want to make it work, continue the relationship but be cautious. If you don’t believe her, it’s time to end the relationship and move on. It’s important to realize that if you don’t trust what she says, it is time to end the relationship. Trust is a key component in any relationship and without it, you have nothing.
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