How to Get Out of a Abusive Relationship

Though the usual image of an abusive relationship is covered up bruises and scars, all forms of mistreatment constitute abuse. Regardless, no one has the right to abuse anyone in any kind of relationship. Those in an abusive relationship have every right to leave the relationship. No level of abuse should ever be tolerated.

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• The realization of your own self-worth
• The ability to say no and end the relationship

Escaping the Abuse

1. Admit that your partner is capable of abuse.

2. Learn to love yourself again and know that you have intrinsic self-worth. You have a right to a healthy relationship. No worthwhile relationship will ever make you chronically miserable.

3. Foster relationships outside your abusive relationship. Friendships can provide emotional support, advice, and a way to escape for awhile and plan your final permanent escape from the relationship

4. Gain financial independence. Being able to support yourself means that your abuser will have less control over you. Also, you will need your own financial pool when you do leave.

5. Let your abuser know that you no longer want a relationship. Remain firm.

6. Plan your escape. Figure out whether you are going to stay with friends, family, or find a place of your own. Figure out when you plan to leave and pack everything you can that belongs to you. Do not tell your abuser when you are leaving. Try to leave when he or she is not around.

Tips & Warnings

• If your abuser turns to stalking, see resources on how to avoid stalkers.
• If you need a place to stay, there are shelters available for abused women.
• There are abuse hot lines available.
• Do not blame yourself for the abuse.