How to Get Over a Bad Break Up

Break ups are difficult situations, even when a person knew the break up would occur or even welcomed it. Whether the break up was welcomed or was a terrible surprise, there is a period of adjustment for both parties. It takes time and some introspection to get over a break up, no matter what the circumstances.

Instructions

1. Think about the relationship, but be honest with yourself. If the relationship ended in a break up, there was at least one fundamental problem going on. Don't sugar coat the relationship, remembering only the good times. That is an unrealistic look at it that will not help you to move past it.

2. Spend time on your own. If you seek out your ex for more talking or to try to establish a friendship, it will confuse your feelings and make it take longer to move on. You may want to be friends with your ex later, but for now just stay away.

3. Feel any anger or sadness you have as a reaction to the break up. If you try to suppress those feelings, it will take that much longer to get over the break up.

4. Stay out of a relationship for awhile. Many people react to a break up by immediately dating someone else. This can serve to delay the bad feelings for awhile, but it can have many negative consequences. It will not help you to get over the break up, but it may trick you into thinking it has. It also may cloud your dating judgment. You may go for someone inappropriate for you just because it will delay your negative feelings. A rebound relationship rarely results in real feelings. If you eventually want a new relationship, wait until you are over your last one.

5. Be physically active. Being sedentary can lead ot depression. stay in a good frame of mind by exercising regularly.

6. Accept that the relationship is over. Stay away from thoughts of eventually getting back together. Those thoughts are often unrealistic and can only delay the inevitable acceptance. Once you reach that acceptance you will be over the relationship and ready to date again.