How to Have Sex Postpardum

First time postpartum sex can be scary. You give birth to a baby, either vaginally, or via cesarean section, wait 6 weeks, and decide it's time to give sex a try. Many times the male partner is much more eager to get a sex life going again. Mothers are typically more tired due to staying up with a newborn at night, and may have a decreased sex drive, due to breastfeeding. Mentally they may want sex, but physically their body doesn't respond due to a recently healed vagina that has been stretched, ripped and cut. Although the size of a penis is much smaller than a baby, sex is still daunting. This guide is aimed to take the fear out of first time postpartum sex and show you exactly what to do to get your love life active again.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Storebought lubricant

1. Designate a night when you and your partner will have sex. This way you are mentally prepared for the encounter. You also want to leave ample time. First time postpartum sex should never be rushed.

2. Give and receive lots of oral foreplay. Foreplay is essential. It allows your body and mind to get into the mood and experience the pleasure of sexual touching once again. Have your man lick your vagina all over. Not only does this feel good, it also ads a bit of lubrication to the area.

3. Apply an ample amount of storebought lubricant to the penis and vagina. Once you are ready for intercourse, make sure the male and female each receive lubrication. You can rub it on each other or apply on yourself.

4. Insert the penis slowly. Do not insert all the way at first. Have him gradually work up to that point, slowly moving in and out.

5. Reapply lubricant when and if there is any tenderness. You probably will not achieve orgasm the first time postpartum. In fact, your partner may not achieve orgasm either. The first postpartum sexual experience simply gets your mind and body used to the idea of using your vagina for sex again.

Tips & Warnings

• You will probably experience pain during this first sexual encounter. Don't worry. If you have waited the recommended 6 weeks postpartum, your body has had plenty of time to heal. The pain is simply due to the stretching and lack of vaginal lubrication.
• Do not forget about your man's needs. Men can be psychologically affected by vaginal birth and may have a difficult time getting into the mood as well. Make sure to spend attention turning him on and try to resist wincing painfully.