How to Kindly Break Up With Someone

Breaking up can be hard for some people.

"We have to talk." These are the words you never wanted to hear in the same sentence. You have met another special someone and it's now time to break it off with Jeremy... and start dating Zack? God, I don’t know what you see in him! It's time to make the break up but there's one problem, you don’t know quite how to do it. Don’t feel bad, you're not the only one. Many people want a break up to go over as smooth as possible without any hard feelings. This article teaches you something you won’t learn in English class; it will teach you how to break up with someone. Don’t tell Jeremy about the break up until AFTER you have read this. He still might be mad, but hey... now you can ask Zack out! Every cloud has a silver lining, I guess.

Instructions

1. Pick an appropriate time and place to meet in person. If your relationship is new, you might get away breaking up on the phone, but this isn’t recommended. If you have been going out for a long time it would be really rude to break up with someone on the phone. Also it’s a whole lot better not to meet in a public place if you are going to make a break up. Remember, ending a relationship is not real pleasing to any party (even if you seem really happy afterwards, you will still have a few feelings left). Don't break up in a place where the person will feel really vulnerable. Also consider choosing a rather random day. Avoid holidays and days like birthdays and anniversaries whenever possible. Do you really want your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend remembering how mean you were every time that day comes around?

2. Be sensitive and control your emotions. No one likes to get brushed off, but people appreciate the truth when it's over (unless the sad truth is you've just stopped finding the person attractive, you've met somebody better or that you're just really bored in your current relationship). In that case, you may not want to let the person know that you're breaking up with them because of this. Remember be sensitive. With this being said, try not to seem too happy about the breakup. Just be kind, caring and consider the other person as if it were you in their position.

3. Try not to react. Regardless of whom you are and what side you are on remember that some people just don't handle being rejected very well. Some people will yell, scream and cry. Remember don’t react to their emotions. This may be hard not to do for people who are naturally emotional. Also remember that rejection is especially tough to people who have superstar egos. You have the upper hand by being the one who breaks the relationship off, so you don’t be emotional with the other person. A few people may even get really crazy after you break up with them, if this happens well you need to leave immediately. If you believe the person will act like this before you make a break up you can just do it over the phone.

Tips & Warnings

• Remember, don’t act you’re not in a movie. It’s helpful to be your own person and be truthful if at all possible.

Resources

• Romance Class