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Step 1
Make jokes and laugh often. Even laugh at yourself. Find time to reminisce about the crazy fun times or look at old pictures. Laughter helps couples get through even the most mundane issues and prepares them for the big ones.
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Step 2
Explore the interests of your spouse that you've never considered trying before. Ask to do it with them, or take classes in it when applicable. By asking questions or spending time learning about the interest, it shows you care. Feeling cared about inspires giving on another. It sets things off on a great turn, and you find things out about your partner you never knew.
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Step 3
Respect the feelings of your husband or wife. Begin to celebrate and acknowledge what each other brings to the relationship, regardless of how small or large the contribution.
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Step 4
Acknowledge that you are a team in life. If you have ever been on a sports or performance team, you understand that the best way to develop a cohesive team is to begin functioning like a team. You and your spouse are on the best team ever and the strongest method to develop cohesion is to function as a team and look out for one another. What are you doing to build your team?
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Step 5
Bite your tongue if a criticism is petty or unnecessary. Nagging is the opposite of an aphrodisiac, and can tear people apart from one another. If a criticism would be helpful, try to state it in a considerate way at a time when your partner isn't vulnerable to criticism.
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Step 6
Have a talk with your partner about what makes them truly happy, and what would make them happier in the relationship with you. Tell them what needs you have that aren't being met. Making the relationship a happy priority will be the right answer to all the questions you hold about your marriage.
Comments
FranticMommy said
on 6/24/2009 #5 is good. I try to remind myself of all my hubby's wonderful qualities even when he's being not-so-wonderful. Good article