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Step 1
Relationships usually do not change in times of crisis. This is a good time to build on the strength of your relationship that was already there before the terminal illness came about. For example some people are able to experience healing in a relationship which probably turned sour before the terminal illness came into play or resolve past issues.
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Step 2
Take the time to listen to the concerns and needs of your terminally ill family member. Let them know that you are there for them and are willing to listen and meet their needs wherever possible. In the event that you cannot do much, your physical presence sends a message of support to your loved one.
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Step 3
Learn to live as fully as possible while accommodating the presence of the terminal illness of your family member. It helps for your family member not to feel like a liability by seeing you as whole and able on a daily basis.
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Step 4
Your terminally ill family member may be in denial or fear abandonment. Have them talk to a chaplain, for example, about their fears. They may be more inclined to open up to a stranger than to another family member. It helps to open up and talk about these fears other than having them build up on a daily basis.
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Step 5
Encourage your loved one to talk about his or her life. Reminisce on the past. In a way this helps to lift up their spirits by talking about memorable times. This helps to take their minds off their pain and suffering.
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Step 6
Another effective way is to turn to a higher being depending on one's religious affiliation. Praying together and holding vigil together is a good way to cope with the terminal illness of a loved one. Just being present even when you feel helpless or powerless, can be an important source of comfort for you and your loved one.
