How to Avoid Pitfalls in Courtship

Courtship is when a man (typically) seeks the affections of a woman with the hopes of getting married. The couple in chaperoned while they get to know each other in order to maintain the purity of the involved parties. The courtship step gives a couple the opportunity to decide if they are compatible for marriage. Sometimes courtship is unsuccessful for reasons other than incompatibility. These pitfalls however, can be avoided. Here are steps on how to avoid pitfalls in courtship.

Instructions

1. Don’t skip steps of courtship. In a proper courtship, a couple would first meet each other. Then they would build a friendship. Next they would enter into courtship if there is a deeper attraction for the purpose of contemplating marriage. Next you would become engaged, and then you would marry. Some people skip the friendship part of courtship which can make contemplating marriage very difficult.

2. Don’t try to force fit a relationship. If and when you realize that you are not compatible, then you should break off the courtship and not stay in the relationship in order to spare the feelings of the other person.

3. Don’t be to rigid about courtship. Courtship is a serious undertaking, but it should not be rigid with too many rules and regulations. Couples should be allowed to have fun and adventure and maintain their personal integrity.

4. Don’t court the wrong person. Courtship is an interesting relationship because it is about more than the individuals who are contemplating engagement and marriage. The prospective spouse is also examined by the parents of each person to make sure the other person is suitable for their child. While it is important to get the parents of your intended to like, and even love you, it is easy to let the relationship with the persons parents interfere with your own relationship.

5. Avoid outside interference. In many tight-knit communities and church families, courtship can be more than a family affair. You are dealing with aunts, uncles, friends, clergy, and acquaintances. Some of these people can be divisive and cause problems in your relationship without your realizing it. Avoid the success of outside interference by communicating all issues brought to you by other people.

Tips & Warnings

• Do not let yourself be forced into a courtship or marriage by your parents or anyone else. Take your time deciding if you should move forward or not.

• Beware of friends that try to come between you.