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Step 1
The first thing you need to stop doing is stop trying to force him to marry you because obviously he's not ready if you got to force him to marry you. We are going to change that. Sometimes moving out or talking about looking for jobs in a different state is the extra push a man needs to make a commitment. Why would a man be motivated to get married if you have been living together already for a long time. In a man's mind he is thinking the only thing that will change after marriage is your last name if your already living together. Think about that
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Step 2
I know moving out may be painful for you but if you can move in with a friend for just a while your man may start coming to his senses. Especially if your talking about working in another state. Something else you can do is make your man feel needed. Allot of woman have the independent mindset about them where they don't need no man and no body. You need to set this mindset aside because we all need help including you. Let your man feel like a man.
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Step 3
Start asking your man to help you with certain things will make him feel more like a man and a provider for you. Even if you think he doesn't make much, if you really love him, and desire to be his wife make him feel like he owns a million dollars especially in public. Plan goals together with your man. If you make him feel like he can accomplish whatever he sets out to do he will feel like a real man and a provider for you. Sometimes men don't see how they can provide for their family and you need to reassure him he is more than able and capable of taking that next step
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Step 4
Visit his parents house if his mom like you, you are halfway there. Try to call his mom as much as possible and form a relationship with her. When his mom starts asking him questions about marriage you can almost feel the ring on your finger.
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Step 5
Pay close attention to what your man likes or looks at. Getting a gift that he really likes for birthdays or holidays is big to a man. It shows him that you paid attention to him and didn't just get what you wanted him to have. Before we get married we are seeing If you are going to be the type of woman that never lets us get what want. But if you do actually get what we want even if you think its dumb and a waste of time it causes us to think twice about leaving. We start to feel like you are the one when we brag to our friends
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Step 6
The last thing you need to do now that your man is trying to figure out what has come over you is to stop nagging. This is one of the biggest turn offs with any man. Instead of nagging have discussions over diner or coffee. Within days of doing all of this you will be headed to the chapel














Comments
babygirl87 said
on 11/16/2008 on 11/16/2008 My Boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now, he is the man of my dreams.My 3 year old daughter from a previous relationship has called him daddy for over a year now, and he loves being her daddy he brags about her all of the time. we have been living together for about a year now and he reciently asked me to move back to his home town with him, but I am terrified to do this without a commitment. He talks about our future together all of the time, but wont do anything about it. We just found out a month ago that we are expecting baby #2 and I just want some form of commitment to show that he is ok with moving our life together to another level. I watch all of our friends getting engaged and married and I am really tired of being the one who isnt
Lindah said
on 5/29/2008 I am not in a relationship right now but i will be back when I get there. Thanks for shedding some light on the matter.