How to Address Problems in a Christian Marriage

When Christians have marriage problems, they often forget to address them from a Christian perspective. It is interesting how stress will make you forget your values. If you are Christian and are having marriage problems, you can address these problems in a Christian way. Here are tips on how to address problems in a Christian Marriage.

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

1. Remember your values. Marital problems often stem from an event or series of events where one person feels they have been mistreated in some way. While it is natural to respond in kind by also mistreating that person, or by retaliating, you must remember your Christian values. Treat them in the way that you want to be treated, not in the same way they treat you. A consistent Christian attitude will help them see the error of their ways where a fiery attitude will help them feel justified for their actions.

2. Remember the most important person in your marriage. Many couples make the mistake of focusing on themselves or their spouse the most in their marriage. The first option is definitely selfish. The second option sounds like a good idea. However, Christ should be the most important person in your marriage and a constant reminder of how you are to treat each other.

3. Remember forgiveness. You can turn the other cheek without being a doormat. Forgiveness does not only benefit the person who has sinned, but also the person who has been sinned against. For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. (Matthew 6:14-15)

4. Remember to pray about it. Not only should you deal with marital problems through prayer and devotion time with the lord, but also you should pray about your marital issues together. Pray about your issues, and pray for each other. Time spent together in prayer will greatly benefit both of you. After all, it is very difficult to hate someone you have prayed for.

5. Avoid Divorce at all costs. There are times when Christians can divorce and even re-marry without a guilty conscience. After all, no one should have to suffer through physical and emotional abuse. No one should have to suffer through habitual financial mismanagement. No one should have to suffer though abandonment and emotional neglect. However, many of these issues can be worked out with the help of loving responses, forgiveness, and prayer. In a Christian marriage, divorce should be the absolute last option to consider. As long as the option of divorce is on the table, it is a distinct possibility. Agree early on in your marriage to not bring up the word lightly.

6. Seek Christian help for reconciliation. There are times when a counselor or workshop is necessary to help a couple reconnect. Speak to your pastor about helping you to find a counselor who will work with you to grow closer using Christian principles so you can grow together in Christ.

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on 7/31/2009 I thank God every day that my wife loves Him first. I am sure otherwise we would have not lasted 25 years. Thank yo ufor the article, reminder and encouragement.