Things You'll Need:
- Event tickets (close to today's date)
- Nice outfit
- Hair straightened
- Perfume / cologne
- Mint / gum
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Step 1
So you've got your eye on a guy that you know or see on a regular basis right ? Right. You know who he is your just not sure if he likes you like that.
Here is a sure fire way to ask him out using the one secret that no one knows about guys...
They LOVE to talk about themselves (yes even the shy ones)! Really
Its the single most thing that gets largely overlooked and its the one thing that people get caught up in the moment and ALWAYS forget to do. In order to get guys to TALK about themselves you have to look for times in the conversation where guys tend to get really wrapped up and talk about almost to the point where they forget your standing there. THIS IS NOT A BAD THING. By finding out what he's really passionate about you can find something you might be interested in and that he might be able to TEACH you about. This is what will ultimately allow you to have a productive first date.
Here is a certified way (and my certified I put my own manhood on the line) to show you how to pickup a guy... -
Step 2
Prepare. Preparation is key. Even before you get to where your going, you obviously need to get ready. Remember these things before you head out.
-Tickets to the top - This is where you work your magic. Event tickets are the perfect icebreaker and puts the ball in your court. This is your point in setting the pace. Baseball tickets and (action / drama)movie premiers are safe bets across the board to get him to say yes. Baseball tickets give you a chance to hang out with relatively low noise, while movie premier tickets are slightly less personal but definitely set the pace for future dates. If your shy go with the baseball tickets, if you feel he's into you get the movie tickets.
- Dress attractive, revealing is good, confidence is better - Don't get caught up is wearing the most revealing thing in the world. It will get you noticed, but if you over do it he will definitely think you putting yourself out there, and not into him. Don't overdress, or it'll look like your trying. Use the colors you normally wear, just nicer.
-Guys like nice hair (period) - Short, curly, long. Anything goes but this is one thing that guys notice subtlety, but it goes along way. Take an extra 30 minutes with the iron. It will help. Trust me.
-Guys like girls that smell nice - Who doesn't like someone that smells good? When your shopping for the perfect scent. Get a guys perspective! I'm sure your taste in perfume is fine, but its the guy your looking to hook. Ask a male attendant what he thinks in a department store. Randoms walking are a perfect test subject. Find two guys that say "really" when they describe your perfume. That's the one you want.
-Guys notice girls with bad breath - Don't let it happen. If a guy happens to catch you one day, hell still talk to you, he'll just add an extra foot when he's around or feel like he's playing roulette wondering if you brushed your teeth today. Gum and mints at all times are clutch.
- Don't overdue your makeup - Guys don't want to date Raggedy Anne or Elvira. Generally guys only notice make up when there is too much contrast. Go natural and if all else fails just ask a female coworker how your makeup looks. If a guy doesn't notice, that's usually a good thing. -
Step 3
Breath. Its like a great presentation you that you know by heart. You've done it. You've ran it through your head. It works it makes sense. Study the following steps and your golden. They work. Focus on getting the getting the guy to talk and to teach. This is where the magic happens...
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Step 4
Your walk into work should be slightly confident, yet subtle. Don't overly look around the room and make yourself notice. You want to blend it, yet be noticed when someone looks your way. Take note throughout the morning of what the guy in your sights is doing without getting noticed. Look for an opening to talk to him. A time when he's not around a ton of people, and seems like he could use more work.
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Step 5
Walk up to him and just say "Hey x"....youll get a generic response. .."I had a quick question, I was suppose to go to the (baseball team / movie premier) (tonight or tomorrow night at x time) with my friend (y) and they ended up backing out, you wouldn't happen to be free would you?"
If he says "Oh I didn't know you liked the (team name)". Just tell him you don't go often, but you were up for something new.
Just take it easy on the first date and let him make the moves. After all it is a guy.
I would phrase this verbatim.
Plan on going separate and meeting there. If he likes you again he'll ask you
Your in the game now.
This is a fairly full proof system and takes alot of the dating pressure off both parties. It puts you out of both your comfort zones and into a new place; together. -
Step 6
On the date, especially if hes into sports, ask him questions about the game even if you know.
How do you score runs?
Who is the best player?
Why does that guy behind the plate, have more stuff on?
Good questions about the game help building rapport and let him know your paying attention. By getting him involved, your on your way to building a solid foundation in letting him know your interested.
Comments
yesterdaylady said
on 12/14/2009 I must have thought about making my move on this guy for nearly two years now, okay four years. I had thought about getting tickets to either a Lakers game or the Nicks; I’m not a fan, I prefer my sox’s Red all the way ; but I would love to snag or even get near this guy. I have thought about sending him a gift basket with, cigars, a nice cologne, flowers and ball tickets, along with my number or something. Then I wonder would he be flattered or offended? He is gorgeous very high end. I’m beautiful, well spoken and little nerdy but not much. Oddly enough I’m attractive, out going and fun, but much grounded, mature business like; and he is like, I don’t know different. The total opposite of who I am or anyone I know.
sleepingcousins said
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boyfriendfinder said
on 10/17/2009 The bad breath thing was a good point, I've had to ask a girl to fix her problem before. On the other hand, I'm not sure it's such a good idea to tell women to encourage my ego and help me brag about my many wonderful achievements. I have bragging rights for sure, and I'm not like every other guy in several ways ... but I think in spite of the goodness of having confidence I think I should be more humble. I don't like your advice on that point. A woman should be able to tell a guy "you talk too much, your ego is too big and I like you but I'd like you more if you could take an interest in things I enjoy such as shopping and manicures - and stop thinking money is all you need to get a woman, I'd be happier with a guy who has a decent income and isn't a millionaire if he's physically attractive and enjoyable to talk to".
Unlike yourself, I don't enjoy my fault of telling women too many...
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