How to Keep Sane During a Divorce

Whether you initiated it or not, a divorce is a trying time riddled with anger, sadness, regret and uncertainty. Keep sane throughout the process with these strategies to ensure you get all the moral support you need.

Instructions

1. Remind yourself of the reasons you're getting a divorce. As the proceedings stretch out, you may feel anger, sorrow, regret, sadness or doubt. Work through them while focusing on the positives in your future instead of dwelling on the past. Visualize how much better your life will be without the problems that led to the divorce.

2. Find a physical release for your anger and frustration. Buy a punching bag, toss a pillow around the room, work out at the gym, vigorously tear up your junk mail or give the oven a good scrubbing. Also treat yourself to moments of relaxation to put the entire situation out of your mind for an afternoon.

3. Talk to your friends and family about your feelings of betrayal and loss. Seek out others who have gone through a divorce to compare your experiences. If you talk to mutual friends, however, be sure you don't say anything against your spouse that can be used against you in the proceedings, or that you don't want your spouse to hear.

4. Consult a counselor if your children are acting out or are having difficulty expressing their sadness or confusion about the divorce. Finding professional help for them may take some of the pressure off you.

5. Keep a journal to express your feelings about the divorce that you can't say to anyone else. Once you've gotten a thought onto paper, let it go and use your energy constructively. Set small goals to keep yourself focused. Adopt a new hobby, reorganize the house or take a class to learn a fascinating new skill.