How to Cope With Insensitive Doctors After a Miscarriage

Most women who have a miscarriage look to their doctor for answers, reassurance and guidance. While many doctors are sensitive to the needs of women following a miscarriage, some doctors are not. If you have suffered a miscarriage and have an insensitive doctor, follow these steps to help you cope and get you on the path towards healing.

Instructions

1. Talk to your doctor after you have had a miscarriage. If you feel that your doctor is acting insensitive towards you and your feelings, let him know. Tell him about your fears, worries and your need to understand. Your doctor may not know that his attitude has bothered you and made you feel poorly. Speak up, and your doctor might change his tune.

2. Speak with another doctor or a nurse in the same medical practice. You might find that another doctor is more sensitive with patients who have suffered a miscarriage. Alternatively, a nurse may be more willing to lend you a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. If you don't feel comfortable asking your doctor if you can talk to someone else, try asking the receptionist to make you an appointment with someone else.

3. Consider switching doctors. If a doctor has made you feel extremely uncomfortable after a miscarriage, and if you have not had success in getting your doctor to act responsive to you in a sensitive manner, you might want to search for another medical provider. When looking for a new doctor, ask prospective doctors how they treat women who have suffered a miscarriage. See if they are willing to listen to their patient's fears and concerns, and if they are willing to calm the woman's fears during subsequent pregnancies. You may even want to get recommendations for new doctors from your friends, especially those who have also had a miscarriage.

4. Look for support from your loved ones. If your doctor has treated you poorly, talk to your friends and family. Look to them to support you and listen to you even during your darkest times. A good support network from friends and family can help overshadow the insensitive nature of your doctor.

5. Commiserate with other women who have also had a miscarriage. Look for online message boards or support groups or ask your local hospital if they have a pregnancy loss or miscarriage support group. Women who have been or who are currently in your situation can help you deal with your pregnancy loss and your insensitive doctor.