How to End the Relationship First

Unless you are totally clueless, you usually know when a relationship is nearing the end. You've already gone through the stages and know that it's only a matter of time. You can choose to just go along, knowing that neither of you is happy. Or you can step up and take the initiative to end the relationship first. It won't be easy, but use these tips to help.

Instructions

1. Know that if you are even questioning whether the relationship is doomed means that it probably is. So by garnering the courage to be the one to make the break, you are saving both of you a lot more wasted time and possibly hurt feelings.

2. Take control of your life and stand up for yourself and your right to be happy. By giving yourself empowering affirmations, you can build up the courage you'll need to end a sour relationship.

3. Tell someone else close to you that you are going to break up with your partner. Make sure that it is a trustworthy friend or family member who can keep the information private until you are ready to go public. By having a supporter on your side, you will have someone to be accountable to if you lose your nerve. Also, you will have a waiting shoulder to cry on when it's finally over.

4. Break up in a public place if you think there might be a scene that you don't want to deal with. People often will avoid a fight or screaming in public.

5. Let the other person down easy by breaking up in private with gentle, loving words. You don't have to blame anyone or bring up old arguments. If you believe the other person will agree with your assessment of the relationship, then do it in a respectful manner in a private setting.