How to Deal With Break ups and Turn Downs

Dealing with break ups and turn downs can be sad and overwhelming. Many wonder if that "happily ever after" relationship will ever be theirs, and often feel depressed in the meantime. However, there are plenty of ways to deal with breaking up and being turned down, and turn such dating disappointments into positive situations. They involve enjoying life in the present moment, trying new things and taking advantage of being single.

Instructions

1. Keep up your appearance. Exercise, eat right, get massages, facials, manicures and pedicures. Focus on making yourself the very best you can be so you stay confident. Confidence helps in times of dating distress.

2. Surround yourself with a small group of really great friends. Cultivate truly meaningful friendships and foster these with plenty of nights out, interesting vacations and meaningful conversations. Having a support group helps cushion the blow when someone breaks up with you or has turned you down.

3. Focus on what is, instead of what could have been. Make sure you don't focus on how things would have been "if only she didn't break up with me or turn me down." Don't live in a fantasy world. Remember, it is what it is and act accordingly.

4. Keep hope alive. Remember all those goofy clichés you've heard, like, "when one door closes, another opens." They come in handy when you've been broken up with or turned down. Forge ahead with excitement and anticipation that "the best is yet to come." Don't stay stuck in your misery, thinking you'll never be happy.

5. Get a new perspective on life. Travel while you're still single, volunteer for those in need, or go back to school. Your dating disappointments won't feel so overwhelming in light of the fact there's a huge world out there with plenty of people (and heartbreak just like yours).

6. Start something new. Get a new job, join a club or start a wine tasting club. Take on a hobby of something you've been dying to try and not only learn new things, but meet new people.