How to Attract Women: Dealing With Competition

In today's article, we're going to talk about other guys at the club, specifically those guys who try to interrupt or ruin your interaction. For more tips, advice and information about this or anything mentioned in any of our eHow articles, please visit http://www.realsocialdynamics.com and http://www.rsdnation.com

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• An interaction
• An AMOG
• Confidence
• (Optional) A drink in your hand

1. When you're out at the bar or club, and you're having that interaction, and it's going well, it is entirely normal to have other guys try and come by and try take that girl away from you. The first step to handling that is a mental one.
   
   Realize that they're operating from a "scarcity mindset", meaning they aren't aware of or using the Abundance Mentality discussed in other articles. To them, the women are few and far between, which is why they have to try and take yours away.
   
   What they fail to realize is that there are plenty of women around, and while you're busy with this one, there are plenty more all around. Realizing this makes their presence far less threatening (and these guys will threaten you, believe me. Remember though, they're carting around insecurity presented as toughness)

2. As the other guy (the AMOG -- Alpha Male Other Guy -- which is a terribly dated and nerdy term, let's just call them 'other guys') approaches and starts his own interaction with the girl, you have a choice:
   
   1. Let the girl go, entirely abandoning your interaction
   2. Immediately make him a non-threat.
   
   Since I'm guessing you don't want to give up your interaction, let's select option 2 -- Making him a non-threat.

3. So how do we make him a non-threat. Looking at him, he may be more physically imposing, he may carry himself with that cocky, macho swagger, and he might even threaten you with violence.
   
   But, don't panic, you're not going to fight him.
   
   You're going to befriend him.
   
   That's the entire "secret" to managing AMOGs - friendliness.
   
   Why does it work? Because he's not expecting it. He expects you to do what he does and get cocky and macho. He wants that fight, to prove his superiority. He wants to bully you, and show himself as higher value.
   
   Making him into a friend completely eliminates his ability to do any of that.

4. So how do you make him a friend? Smile. Greet him. Ask him how his night's going. Include him in that story you're telling. Involve him in the story you're telling. Raise a toast to him if you've got a drink in your hand. (My personal favorite toast is "To this other guy!" and make up a name for him). Even if he is a total stranger, treat him as though you were the best of friends as children.
   
   Friendliness stops AMOGs.

Tips & Warnings

• This takes a lot of courage, because it is very much outside the norm for people. Practice and develop that courage.
• Resist the urge to fight. Fighting him (be it an argument or physically) uses up that time you'd normally use for a conversation with a woman.
• Remember that confidence carries the day.
• Remember that you live in abundance. The Abundance Mentality allows you to attract women, many women, should this one interaction not work out.
• While other schools of thought will tell you to use cocky, funny and sarcastic comments to diffuse the situation, it's entirely possible that those comments will just escalate the situation into one involving a fight.
• Don't lose your temper! Remember, you went out to have a good time, not fight some guy.

Resources

• Real Social Dynamics
• RSD Nation
• RSD Wiki

[iamageniuster]

on 10/18/2008 Great tips. 5 stars! Thanks for sharing.

[iamageniuster]

on 10/18/2008 Great tips. 5 stars! Thanks for sharing.