How to Attract Women: Talk To People

In this article, we'll focus on several different ways to project yourself (tonality), as well as different ways you can add a little edge and spice to your conversation by talking dirty.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• An interaction
• An emotion you want to communicate

1. 
   Step 1. Get into an interaction, meet a woman and attract her.

   To start, you're going to need an interaction, or be having a conversation. For tips on that, please see our other eHow articles.
   
   We assume you're already into conversation, and things are progressing nicely.

2. You're well aware that what you say can be as important as how you say it. For example, try saying this sentence three times, each time emphasizing a new word.
   
   "I am here."
   "I AM here."
   "I am HERE."
   
   How you say something is referred to as Tonality or Rapport, and there are 3 type/styles of tonality.
   
   1. Seeking/Rising Tonality/Rapport (SR)-- This is when you've raised your voice in pitch, to where it's not quite a whine. This is the voice of the not-so confident. This is the voice of uncertainty.
   
   2. Neutral Tonality/Rapport (NR)-- This is your normal voice. Relaxed, regular, unstressed. This is the voice you use 95% of the time.
   
   3. Breaking Tonality/Rapport (BR)-- This is the voice of command. When you speak sternly to someone, when you convey disinterest to a telemarketer, whenever you want to make clear that you're not going to put up with nonsense, this is the voice you use. This is the voice of strength, confidence and leadership.
   
   Practice these three voices. Get comfortable with each. How do you practice them? By speaking. By working your voice.

3. 
   You want to do the verbal equivalent of this -- Stand out.

   Whenever you want to raise the stakes in conversation, whenever you want to change the amount of attraction, change tonality.
   
   You want to sound more attractive, add some breaking rapport. Make it clear that you're confident.
   
   You want to sound relaxed? Mix in some neutral rapport. Take it easy, smile and enjoy the conversation.
   
   Want to slow things down, maybe you feel panicked and rushed and need a way out? Throw in some seeking rapport.
   
   Varying how you convey whatever you're talking about is potent. It's dynamic, so that you don't sound monotone, dry or at the worst, dull.

4. Let's up the ante. We've learned how to change how you speak to modulate the levels of attraction, now we're going to learn WHAT to say to vary up attraction. Specifically, we're going to talk about talking dirty, saying what you mean and being serious about it.

5. 

   Let's be honest, talking dirty gets a lot of flak. The misconceptions around it are legion, and nearly everyone thinks that talking dirty involves combining differing expletives and slang together in new and exciting ways.
   
   It's not about the swearing. It's not even about the slang for different body parts.
   
   It's about saying what you want directly and meaning it.
   
   Talking about what you want isn't vulgar. If you want to do X, then say so. Mean it. It's what you want isn't it? Why dance around it? How confident does that possibly make you sound?
   
   It's not a question of "appropriate". You know the line. You're not going to cross that threshold yet. (This is called "acting through your own intentions" and will be discussed more later.)
   
   So, if you want X, say so. And when she questions and tests this resolve, do not waiver. Confidence carries the day. Stick to your guns. Don't give up. It's what you want, and an attractive man is not denied.
   
   Practice this. It takes time and patience.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't immediately launch into vulgarities. Some of the most filthy things you'll ever hear aren't laced with 4-letter words.
• Practice, practice, practice.
• If you want X, and she doesn't, don't be a jerk. Don't harass, or overdo this. Remember, the abundance mentality. It will bail you out. Just because one woman isn't interested, go find another.
• Start small, and build. Rather than bum-rush a person with thunderous material, work slowly, otherwise you'll just bully them (usually away from you)

Resources

• Real Social Dynamics
• RSD Nation
• RSD Wiki

[drawesome]

on 5/2/2009 To learn much more about picking up and attracting women get more pro articles about it at: http://www.attraction-college.com/men

[iamageniuster]

on 10/18/2008 Great tips. 5 stars! Thanks for sharing.