How to be an effective Christian Husband?

Have you ever wondered what your responsibilities are as a Christian Husband? Great! Allow me to share some simple principles that have the potential to reap great benefits for you.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• Open heart
• Willingness to change

1. First, You must have a growing relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. Every relationship that you enter in must be channeled through the perspective of Christ.
2. Second, As it relates to your wife, you must be committed to loving your wife as Christ loves the Church. This responsibility is probably one of the most challenging of any Christian husband. It's challenging because we have to love unconditional and with great understanding as Christ did for the church. Think about what Jesus did for you as a sinner. Now, do you see the awesome responsibility we have to love our wives as Christ loved the church?
3. Third, you must communicate, communicate, and communicate more. Man of God, your effectiveness as a Christian husband is going to greatly rely on your ability to communicate with your wife. It is important that you do not shut down, or ignore issues in your marriage. You must be the communicator even when your wife cannot communicate effectively. You are the leader! God requires more of you as the husband. Three effective principles of communicating: 1. Listen to what the person is saying and not saying. 2. Do not be to quick to offer solutions in every situation, but reaffirm the issue communicated and vow to seek understanding. 3. Seek God for wisdom of how to address the issues appropriately.
4. Fourth, Facilitate True intimacy. Man of God, intimacy is not, in its total meaning sex. Intimacy begins when you communicate with your wife in a manner that is soothing, understanding. Intimacy begins when you do little things that will make her happy and smile. Intimacy is jumping in and helping with the household work around the house. Intimacy is calling her up for no apparent reason but to say, I love you. All of those things and more are all linked to intimacy. Sex is the tangible expression of appreciation for True Intimacy.
5. Fifth, Get a hold on your finances. A wife will worry if the finances are not stable. You must ensure her that you know what you are doing within your power. Communicate the financial expectations to your wife on a continual basis. No surprises! Develop a budget with her and discuss how you both will work together to get rid of unnecessary debt. The more debt that you both get rid of, the more joy and happiness you will have in your marriage. Start by tithing, budgeting, debt management, and saving for an emergency reserve fund.
6. Sixth, Share your Christian experience with your wife. Don't allow your wife and yourself to experience God all alone. Enjoy Christ with your spouse. Pray together! Worship together! Study the word of God together!
7. Seventh, Learn to get away alone. Plan a trip for you and your wife on a quarterly basis. Go away and enjoy each other. Plan a once a month date with your wife. This will give the both of you something to look forward to each month.

Tips & Warnings

• Take charge and lead in your marriage God's way.