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Step 1
Make a sensual massage sensual by not expecting sex. The goal to keep in mind as you give a sensual massage is how wonderful the recipient feels. Second to this, a sensual message expresses your feelings for a person. If you bring expectations to the act, the result is often less relaxation and a rushed experience for the receiver.
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Step 2
Create a sensual environment with a combination of lighting, sounds, scents and temperature. Try aromatherapy oils or scented candles and low music or nature sounds. Adjust the temperature of the room so that it is warm enough with limited or no clothing. See that the bedding is nicely scented and warmed. Toss linens in the clothes dryer if needed.
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Step 3
Pay attention to your hands before you give a sensual message. Ensure that your nails are trimmed and that your skin is neither cold nor rough. If your hands are calloused, you may wish to use extra massage oil or lotion. This is a good time to warm the massage oil you intend to use.
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Step 4
Start with a hot bath and scalp massage for a truly sensual experience. Both men and women enjoy having their hair washed and a light touch quickly melts anxiety and stress away.
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Step 5
Have your loved one undress as she is comfortable with and encourage her to lay down on a comfortable surface. Optionally, place a towel across the buttocks, underneath the tail bone, so that the body is not 100% exposed. This makes for both a calming and sensual effect.
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Step 6
Use your best judgment when you give a sensual massage based on what you know about his likes and dislikes. Consider where he has noted pain or if he is ticklish, for instance, as this will effect how much pressure to use and what to avoid.
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Step 7
Follow specialty massage techniques if you prefer, such as tantric massage, otherwise begin with the tension filled areas: feet, shoulders, neck, and, for some, the lower back and buttocks. Position yourself in away to keep movement fluid, with few seconds of loss of skin contact, whether standing or positioned on the bed. Use enough oil or lotion so that your hands glide over the skin.
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Step 8
Try a combination of light, ultra-light and moderate pressures. Encourage the recipient to let you know what feels good and what does not. Professional massage therapists employ a similar technique as people vary drastically in their preferences concerning massage, sensual or otherwise. Don't lose heart if the massage is not perfect, it often improves with practice.
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Step 9
Progress to erroneous zones after a fair amount of relaxation has occurred, to include the inner thighs, behind the knees, inner wrists, face and other known sensitive areas. As you give a sensual massage include long gliding strokes and for the non-ticklish, fingertip massage or feathering touches.
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Step 10
Close the message with a silk or plushy robe offered to the recipient, their favorite beverage and a rose. Follow with some light loving kisses or wherever the sensual massage takes you, unexpectedly of course.
