How to Tell if Your crush is for You

Deciding if someone is good for you or not is not as easy as picking out a new piece of clothing or deciding on a paint color for your home. It involves a little introspection, analysis and insight if you want to attract someone that is good for you. With a little patience and practice you can arrive at a decision. Read on to learn how to tell if your crush is for you.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• Patience
• <br>Practice
• <br>Insight
• <br>Determination

1. Decide what you want first. All else follows from this step. Women especially waste so much time deciding what the guy wants and analyzing him. Get really clear about what your wants versus your needs are and what you will and won’t compromise on. Then don’t deviate. If you won’t tolerate a man that does a, b and c--then don’t. Women have a nasty habit of seeing “red flags” in a relationship and overlooking them. If you get out in the beginning as soon as flags go off, you can break your bad habits of attracting the wrong person. In contrast, if you consciously draw someone into your life based on what you need and not just what is familiar and dysfunctional, you can set yourself up for a great relationship.
2. Ask yourself--do they satisfy you emotional, mentally and physically? A great romantic partner should complement you on these three fundamental levels. Weaknesses in one area are not deal-breakers, but again--decide how much you can tolerate and if the person doesn't measure up, save yourself a lot of heartache and wasted time and hold out for someone that does.
3. Ask the experts and they will tell you that couples that last a long time share the same values and core beliefs even if they are very different people in their approach to the world or outside appearance. Ask yourself--do you share the same goals, beliefs, traditions and/or values? If not, what can you compromise on and what can’t you?
4. Ask your friends both make and female what their opinions are, so you have a balanced view. Sometimes it helps to get an added perspective from someone that cares about you but is not as emotionally involved.

Tips & Warnings

• Go with your gut. If you find yourself rationalizing behavior too much, it's often a red flag that something is off, you just can't articulate it. If your instincts say no, then so should you.
• Try to meet your crush out socially where no alcohol is involved first, then date number two you are free and clear to drink. If you drink on the first night, your perception can be skewed.