How to Tell Your Boyfriend You're Sorry

Be remorseful and sincere when you go to apologize.

You've messed up with your boyfriend and need to apologize. A great deal of your apology will depend on what you're apologizing for. A bigger "I'm sorry" will be required for cheating than if you accidentally left his car window open right before a thunderstorm. (Of course, that depends on how much he loves his car.) Find out ways to apologize that will hopefully lead to forgiveness.

Instructions

1. Tell your boyfriend you need to talk to him. Sometimes this scares guys off, so make sure he knows it's not about something he did wrong.

2. Choose a time to apologize when you'll be alone and uninterrupted, especially if the situation requires a long talk.

3. Show remorse. Your apology will be much more believable if it's obvious you're sorry for whatever you did.

4. Apologize. This can be as simple as "I'm sorry" or "I apologize," but you must be sincere about it.

5. Make it clear why you're apologizing. Don't just offer some vague apology, because he might not know what you're sorry about.

6. Send a card in the mail or online if your boyfriend doesn't want to talk to you. Personalize the card with an expression of how sorry you are.

7. Do something nice for him as a way of apologizing. If he likes cars, buy him the latest issue of his favorite auto magazine.

8. Be prepared for a negative reaction, especially if you did something serious, such as cheating.

9. Don't argue or present "buts" after your apology. This can get you right back to square one. Apologize and then let your boyfriend either accept it or not.

Tips & Warnings

• There will be times your boyfriend won't accept your apology, especially if you did something he finds unforgivable. Accept that even if you offer the most heartfelt apology, this could be the end of your relationship.

• If possible, it's better to apologize in person.

• It takes courage to say you're sorry, and being able to apologize is a sign of maturity.

• Don't apologize and then follow it with what he did to contribute to the issue. Apologize and then leave it at that. This isn't the time to bring up his faults if you want him to accept your apology.

Resources

• Read this Article in Spanish