How to tell your friend you are gay/lesbian and like them without them freaking out
Your best friend is funny, funky and fabulous and you’ve had a crush on him since you realized you were gay. It takes a lot of courage to tell your friend you are gay or lesbian and that you like them. It's also tough to do this without them freaking out. They make freak out anyway but you know you’d kick yourself if you didn’t admit your feelings. Here’s how.
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Instructions
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Pick a time you are alone with your friend and tell him you have something shocking to tell him. Try, “I have something to tell you that’s going to make you freak out.”
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Diffuse the freak out part by admitting you’d freak out if you heard this news, too, and weren't expecting it but he’s so cool you know he can handle it.
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Admit your sexual preference. “If you didn’t realize it, I am gay.”
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Admit your feelings. “This is hard for me to tell you, and I hope it doesn’t ruin our wonderful friendship, but I’ve had a crush on you for two years.”
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Accept what comes. This could be a slap in the face or a shocked silence. In the best case scenario, you might get an admission that your friend is gay, too, and has a crush on you for three years.
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Tips & Warnings
If your friend does not have reciprocal feelings, you can still preserve the friendship by putting the crush out of your mind and concentrating on what a wonderful friend he is.
No matter how much you tell them not to freak out or how strategic you be, your friend is probably going to freak out anyway.
Don't make passes at your friend or pursue your feelings if he's not interested.
Don't get his name tattooed on your chest unless you know the feelings are mutual.
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i like this girl and im afraid to death to say i like her. ive known her for 1 year and just monday she said she can only trust me. the problem is that shes catholic and catholics dont like lesbians. im gonna tell her 2marrow that i like her 0-0
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werewolf02780
Jul 14, 2010
crap...doesn't look like one of my posts went in...well, me and her aren't friends anymore. I did infact make up a lame excuse, had a fight, and ended it. I don't want to make her miserable, since I've put her through sooooo much tears and pain. I cry just thinking about it. She should be with friends and a great guy that loves her very much. its been nine months since we've been friends and ten months since we've talked to one another (we went for one month without talking) -
werewolf02780
Jul 14, 2010
i could go into more details...but that would take much much much longer time...and it really hurts to even talk about any of this...but, i guess it's good to get it off my chest, even if it isn't to the person who should know...
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fh-keeper
Feb 09, 2010
I feel Exactly like xc1992. it is even more difficult to handle my feelings for him when he comes over every tues and thursday between school and fieldhockey practice, and for the days inbetween, I love just lying on my bed smelling him on my pillow. I am also not totally gay, but have come to the realiation that i like guys (there are two in particular) aswell as girls. I am defenitely going to try this advice in the (hopefully) near future, when i've gathered enough strength... Thx again
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treasuresyw
Dec 01, 2009
Great article to offer. It may help a lot of individuals. Peace
